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From: Victoria Sea on 16 Mar 2007 14:04
hello,

titled, Making Peace With Grief

Our dreams can help us untangle our emotions about people who ae no
longer with us, according to psychologist Patricia Garfield,Ph.D, whos
written nine books on dreams.After her husband of 33 years died in 2002,
Garfield developed a theory that grieving people experience *dream
seasons* while mourning the loss of loved ones.

During the first season, akin to he traditional period of grief, people
dream destructive images. I dreamed of sweeping up shattered glass, like
the shattering of a life, Garfiaeld recalls. Later, in the second dream
season, people experience chaotic dreams filled with swirling emotions
of sadness and guilt. People feel isolated in this season , she says.
Older women get depressed and he suicide rate among older men shoots up.

Finally, in the third dream season, individuals transfer their
recollections to precious memories, and their dream images turn positive
with new life. I dreamed of babies, reflecting the length of time since
my husband died, says Garfield, whos interviewing other widows about
their dreams for a forthcoming book on the subject. After 3 months, I
dreamed of looking at an infant in a baby carriage. After 6 months, I
dreamed of an adorable baby sitting up and laughing. Dreams have a
special power to help us let go of someone we love.


hi, i lurk off and on here. this article is from Readers Digest/February
2006, and i do not like the title she gave the article. is she
suggesting what is right or wrong in some one elses time frame?
regarding, healing, coping, or making peace? its always an individual
thing, different people have their own definitions for making peace,
coping , healing, etc.....while sometimes it seems and feels like it
would be so much easier and logical just to give up and let broken
spirit broken heart take its course, and beaten down with the term
(acceptance)? yet doesnt it, in maybe a rainbow show itself just in the
faintest way, the fact that the human spirit desires mostly, to grow or
move on even in unbearable or impossible circumstances. ?

victoria

From: only me on 19 Mar 2007 05:22
Hi Victoria, I agree that grief is personal & is different for each
individual. I don't dream much so I cannot agree with the article on
that. To make peace with grief just doesn't make much sense to me. Maybe
its me, but I don't see how dreams can help very much. I wish I would
dream of my daughter every nite, but it only happened few times. Your
right, we all have our own ways of coping. Pat

From: Marsha on 20 Mar 2007 00:26
Hi, Pat. I agree with you. Everyone is an a unique path in grief, as
each of our relationships and circumstances are a bit different. I've
had a few dreams, but nothing like what this article/posting
indicated. I don't think you actually 'make peace' with your grief -
more like you learn to live with it. Grief is a reaction to losing
someone.

Marsha

On Mar 19, 2:22 am, pat-1...(a)webtv.net (only me) wrote:
> Hi Victoria, I agree thatgriefis personal & is different for each
> individual. I don't dream much so I cannot agree with the article on
> that. To make peace withgriefjust doesn't make much sense to me. Maybe
> its me, but I don't see how dreams can help very much. I wish I would
> dream of my daughter every nite, but it only happened few times. Your
> right, we all have our own ways of coping. Pat


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