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From: eddiecoats on 5 Jul 2008 14:20 I cannot express how disappointed I am in this website. I learned about it reading Elizabeth Edward's book and was anticipating all sorts of support and exchange of ways to cope. Not only did I experience going through six months of chemotherapy in the hospital for Leukemia, just to have to deal with my only daughter overdosing on prescription medicines another six months later. I don't think there was anyone more qualified to enroll on this website than myself. Yes, every day I saw that there were parents out there grieving apparently more than I am. Yes, I read each story with tears in my eyes. And yes, I tried hard to reach out to each one who had a situation remotely like my own, only to discover that either my messages were not reaching the victims, or the victims did not care to respond. All those :sisters" Elizabeth Edwards had made on this site either had moved on, or there were none to replace them when I came along. I have found no comfort, nothing but frustration here. Genie
From: Jack Cassidy on 6 Jul 2008 00:42 <eddiecoats(a)gmail.com> wrote in message news:dd068461-319b-4ea9-9a3b-c707bdb316d6(a)p25g2000hsf.googlegroups.com... >I cannot express how disappointed I am in this website. This is not a website, This is a newsgroup on usenet. >I learned > about it reading Elizabeth Edward's book and was anticipating all > sorts of support and exchange of ways to cope. Not only did I > experience going through six months of chemotherapy in the hospital > for Leukemia, just to have to deal with my only daughter overdosing on > prescription medicines another six months later. > I don't think there was anyone more qualified to enroll on this > website than myself. One does not enroll in a newsgroup, You simply come here and post a message and sometimes someone will respond, sometimes not. This newsgroup used to be much more active, Most of the posters from several years ago have moved on. I really don't know why more new people have not filled the spaces they left. Maybe it is because there are so many more grief sites then there used to be. Maybe it is because many ISP's have dropped newsgroups. Maybe it is because at one time there was a lot of bickering and fighting in this group and it scared off a lot of people. One thing I am pretty confident of is there is no shortage of grief in this world. > Yes, every day I saw that there were parents out there grieving > apparently more than I am. Yes, I read each story with tears in my > eyes. And yes, I tried hard to reach out to each one who had a > situation remotely like my own, only to discover that either my > messages were not reaching the victims, or the victims did not care to > respond. I am sorry that you did not find the comfort and support here that you need. Have you tried face to face grief groups like The Compassionate Friends? > All those :sisters" Elizabeth Edwards had made on this site either had > moved on, or there were none to replace them when I came along. I have > found no comfort, nothing but frustration here. > > Genie I remember when Elizabeth used to post here, I guess she moved on as well. There are a few here that haven't moved on, That have been around for a long time but don't post very often. This used to be a good resource, I am sorry to see it die a slow death. I am sorry for your losses, and for all who read here and are unable to find peace. -- Jack Cassidy Patti's dad 3/17/79~~10/1/96 Your light still shines in my heart.
From: Jo in Ok on 6 Jul 2008 10:36 On Jul 5, 11:20 am, eddieco...(a)gmail.com wrote: > I cannot express how disappointed I am in this website. I learned > about it reading Elizabeth Edward's book and was anticipating all > sorts of support and exchange of ways to cope. Not only did I > experience going through six months of chemotherapy in the hospital > for Leukemia, just to have to deal with my only daughter overdosing on > prescription medicines another six months later. > I don't think there was anyone more qualified to enroll on this > website than myself. > > Yes, every day I saw that there were parents out there grieving > apparently more than I am. Yes, I read each story with tears in my > eyes. And yes, I tried hard to reach out to each one who had a > situation remotely like my own, only to discover that either my > messages were not reaching the victims, or the victims did not care to > respond. > > All those :sisters" Elizabeth Edwards had made on this site either had > moved on, or there were none to replace them when I came along. I have > found no comfort, nothing but frustration here. > > Genie (((Genie)))) I hope you can find others places that you feel like suit your needs...please don't be so harsh on the ones suffering here themselves, they have way too much on their own emotional plate to handle...to put anyone down here only adds to their own ongoing misery and I am sure you really dont' want to do that or mean too... My son died in '96 so the first few years was the most intensed and most hurtful and yes, many like me have moved on and will come back oocasional to post or see what's up...no one here is a professional therapist- just some regular joe or joanne,ect, trying to do the best they can while grieving over having someone they loved that has died too...if anyone does not get what they "think" they feel they need here(or even deserve), then maybe they could go to a professional to talk things out with.....good luck with whatveer you decide and more ((((hugs)))) for all my sweeties here that know what I have experienced and somehow I hope we have helped one another along...Jo ;)
From: Cindy's Mom on 6 Jul 2008 12:54 On Jul 5, 12:20 pm, eddieco...(a)gmail.com wrote: > I cannot express how disappointed I am in this website. I learned > about it reading Elizabeth Edward's book and was anticipating all > sorts of support and exchange of ways to cope. Not only did I > experience going through six months of chemotherapy in the hospital > for Leukemia, just to have to deal with my only daughter overdosing on > prescription medicines another six months later. > I don't think there was anyone more qualified to enroll on this > website than myself. > > Yes, every day I saw that there were parents out there grieving > apparently more than I am. Yes, I read each story with tears in my > eyes. And yes, I tried hard to reach out to each one who had a > situation remotely like my own, only to discover that either my > messages were not reaching the victims, or the victims did not care to > respond. > > All those :sisters" Elizabeth Edwards had made on this site either had > moved on, or there were none to replace them when I came along. I have > found no comfort, nothing but frustration here. > > Genie Genie...I too came to this group after reading about it in Elizabeth Edward's book and I don't think it is the same group it was when she was a regular, but things do change. I think one of the HUGE problems is the posting of messages by these internet "sickos" like who posted just after you and also the spam postingsl I have been posting for about a year or so and many of the things written here are a big help to me. But, close relationships is not what this group is about anymore. I agree with Jack that Compassionate Friends is a huge help, also greif groups run by civic groups or churches are helpful. But, I think the internet souces are just not what they were when first started because of all the folks out there who take pleasure in causing pain and turmoil. ((((Hugs))) to you I know you are hurting just like any normal grieving person who comes to this group is. I hope you can live in the sunshine of your lost ones love and remember them as they were at their best. That is what I am trying to do about my beloved daughter Cindy who died way too soon at the age of 38, October 25,2006. She was my only daughter and best friend and I miss her everyday of my life. But, I know she would not want me to become a bitter person, but try to go on and enjoy what I can without her. I firmly believe that one day we will be together again joined in universal love. Peace to you..Judy, Cindy's Mom.
From: gloria212 on 7 Jul 2008 03:50
GENIE: Sorry for you, how do you want me to respond? You call yourself a victim! I too lost my child. But I have not become a victim. Its a terrible thought. Who or what has made you a victim? Time may be a great healer, but it's a lousy beautician. |