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From: Genie on 21 May 2008 12:43 Lamb, my husband has the same problem you have. Our 31 year old daughter was cremated a year and a half ago. Her husband had possession of her ashes. When we learned that he had "moved on" with another lady, or should I say, "moved in" ( meow) we asked and received her ashes. Now the question is what do we do with them to honor her memory? My sister lost her daughter over 20 years ago. Her child's ashes still sit on her bureau dresser. As I said, my husband is anxious to find a fitting place for them. He is looking into local cemeteries for a columbarium to house the ashes. Our church has a lovely gardened columbarium, but our daughter, in her teen years, elected to change churches. The one she chose ( where she was re-baptized, married and given a funeral,) does not have a facility for ashes. With cremation in mind for my husband and I, we would like for the three of us to be together. Any ideas you have, or the other readers, would be grately appreciated. Genie
From: gloria212 on 21 May 2008 19:52 A local Cemetery would probably be the best choice. Time may be a great healer, but it's a lousy beautician.
From: Genie on 22 May 2008 11:56 On May 21, 7:52 pm, gloria...(a)webtv.net wrote: > A local Cemetery would probably be the best choice. > > Time may be a great healer, but it's a lousy beautician. Do you know something I don't, Gloria? Do most cemeteries have a place for ashes? Genie
From: gloria212 on 23 May 2008 10:52 Genie, I've heard of--Ashes being buried with a relative, Ashes buried alone (in graves) with headstones or footstones--they arent always scattered. Time may be a great healer, but it's a lousy beautician.
From: Laura on 23 May 2008 20:55
On Fri, 23 May 2008 10:52:32 -0400, gloria212(a)webtv.net wrote: >Genie, I've heard of--Ashes being buried with a relative, Ashes buried >alone (in graves) with headstones or footstones--they arent always >scattered. > >Time may be a great healer, but it's a lousy beautician. My grand parents had always planned on being cremated. At least that was grandma's plan, I think Granddad was always a bit ambivilent to the whole idea.....discussing anything regarding his eventual passing was something he avoided with great effort (to the point of having no will at age 90!) My grandma died first -- a week prior to their 75th wedding anniversary. Granddad followed Grandmas wishes and she was cremated. When the ashes arrived, neither my Granddad or Aunt could decide what to do with the ashes. Grandma wanted to be scattered throughout a stretch of woods she had paricular fondness of. Granddad and Aunt were reluctant to do so. So, the ashes sat. Almost a year to the day after Grandma passed away (94 years!) Granddad died. During the year after Grandma's passing, he'd made two decisions. The first being to create w will. Thank heaven for that, he had a pretty tood amount of land and various investments. He also determined that he really didn't want to be cremated. His rather sudden and unexpected death (yes, at 95 years we were still taken by surprize) actually created a solution for the question of what to do with Grandma's ashes. The ashes were placed in a heart shaped container, painted with flowers, and placed in the crook of Granddad's arm in the casket and the two were buried together. Very poignant. Their head stone bears the dates of their dates of birth, dates of death and in an etching depicting two hands bearing wedding bands, the date of their marriage - depicting their 75 year union. My parents were so touched by that stone that they ordered the same stone for themselves. For four years the stone bore only my mothers information and the date of her marriage to dad. This past year dad joined her. I haven't yet seen the completed stone. But this one will depict a union of 56 years and 1 month to the day. |