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From: "Pam" p b on 24 May 2008 15:37 <Laura(a)notmy.com> wrote in message news:2qoe349ujq6lbilvdch84v1rgr7d2a3u4c(a)4ax.com... > On Fri, 23 May 2008 10:52:32 -0400, gloria212(a)webtv.net wrote: > >>Genie, I've heard of--Ashes being buried with a relative, Ashes buried >>alone (in graves) with headstones or footstones--they arent always >>scattered. >> >>Time may be a great healer, but it's a lousy beautician. > > > My grand parents had always planned on being cremated. At least that > was grandma's plan, I think Granddad was always a bit ambivilent to > the whole idea.....discussing anything regarding his eventual passing > was something he avoided with great effort (to the point of having no > will at age 90!) My grandma died first -- a week prior to their 75th > wedding anniversary. Granddad followed Grandmas wishes and she was > cremated. When the ashes arrived, neither my Granddad or Aunt could > decide what to do with the ashes. Grandma wanted to be scattered > throughout a stretch of woods she had paricular fondness of. Granddad > and Aunt were reluctant to do so. So, the ashes sat. Almost a year > to the day after Grandma passed away (94 years!) Granddad died. > During the year after Grandma's passing, he'd made two decisions. The > first being to create w will. Thank heaven for that, he had a pretty > tood amount of land and various investments. He also determined that > he really didn't want to be cremated. His rather sudden and > unexpected death (yes, at 95 years we were still taken by surprize) > actually created a solution for the question of what to do with > Grandma's ashes. The ashes were placed in a heart shaped container, > painted with flowers, and placed in the crook of Granddad's arm in the > casket and the two were buried together. Very poignant. Their head > stone bears the dates of their dates of birth, dates of death and in > an etching depicting two hands bearing wedding bands, the date of > their marriage - depicting their 75 year union. > > My parents were so touched by that stone that they ordered the same > stone for themselves. For four years the stone bore only my mothers > information and the date of her marriage to dad. This past year dad > joined her. I haven't yet seen the completed stone. But this one > will depict a union of 56 years and 1 month to the day. Beautiful!
From: Daisy on 24 May 2008 15:59 Oh yes I agree, what a beutiful thing to think about. -- Daisy "Pam" <p b ader(a)cox.net> wrote in message news:A8_Zj.10490$ap3.1223(a)newsfe14.phx... > > <Laura(a)notmy.com> wrote in message > news:2qoe349ujq6lbilvdch84v1rgr7d2a3u4c(a)4ax.com... >> On Fri, 23 May 2008 10:52:32 -0400, gloria212(a)webtv.net wrote: >> >>>Genie, I've heard of--Ashes being buried with a relative, Ashes buried >>>alone (in graves) with headstones or footstones--they arent always >>>scattered. >>> >>>Time may be a great healer, but it's a lousy beautician. >> >> >> My grand parents had always planned on being cremated. At least that >> was grandma's plan, I think Granddad was always a bit ambivilent to >> the whole idea.....discussing anything regarding his eventual passing >> was something he avoided with great effort (to the point of having no >> will at age 90!) My grandma died first -- a week prior to their 75th >> wedding anniversary. Granddad followed Grandmas wishes and she was >> cremated. When the ashes arrived, neither my Granddad or Aunt could >> decide what to do with the ashes. Grandma wanted to be scattered >> throughout a stretch of woods she had paricular fondness of. Granddad >> and Aunt were reluctant to do so. So, the ashes sat. Almost a year >> to the day after Grandma passed away (94 years!) Granddad died. >> During the year after Grandma's passing, he'd made two decisions. The >> first being to create w will. Thank heaven for that, he had a pretty >> tood amount of land and various investments. He also determined that >> he really didn't want to be cremated. His rather sudden and >> unexpected death (yes, at 95 years we were still taken by surprize) >> actually created a solution for the question of what to do with >> Grandma's ashes. The ashes were placed in a heart shaped container, >> painted with flowers, and placed in the crook of Granddad's arm in the >> casket and the two were buried together. Very poignant. Their head >> stone bears the dates of their dates of birth, dates of death and in >> an etching depicting two hands bearing wedding bands, the date of >> their marriage - depicting their 75 year union. >> >> My parents were so touched by that stone that they ordered the same >> stone for themselves. For four years the stone bore only my mothers >> information and the date of her marriage to dad. This past year dad >> joined her. I haven't yet seen the completed stone. But this one >> will depict a union of 56 years and 1 month to the day. > > > Beautiful!
From: Frannie aka NanaBanana on 1 Jun 2008 07:27
Our baby son died 20 years before our daughter. We wanted them to be buried at the same cemetery so we had him (I can't think of the word right now) unburied and placed in an urn and placed in a casket with his sister. So my two precious ones are buried togther. And such is our plan, my husband and I. We have a plot next to the kids. The first to go will be cremated. Then when the second one goes that one will be buried with the urn and a headstone for the two of us. And yes, you can have cremated remains buried in a cemetary. They have special spots for them. Frannie |