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From: matrix on 10 Jun 2007 11:56
last night I was told by my co-worker that I seemed like a very
nervous person. The ironic thing is that I wasn't nervous at all. This
is not the first time people have gotten that impression. Sometimes
they're right, and I am nervous, but other times, I'm not feeling
nervous, but I'm guessing my body language comes off as being nervous.
I've been told that I move around a lot when I talk, I'm not sure if
its my hands or my body that does this. Anyway, it's a little
annoying, even if I am nervous, I hate being told that I come off like
that. So, does anybody have experience with people saying you come off
as too nervous and uneasy?

From: riccip on 10 Jun 2007 17:11
matrix <FalseParadigm(a)yahoo.com> wrote:

>last night I was told by my co-worker that I seemed like a very
>nervous person. The ironic thing is that I wasn't nervous at all. This
>is not the first time people have gotten that impression. Sometimes
>they're right, and I am nervous, but other times, I'm not feeling
>nervous, but I'm guessing my body language comes off as being nervous.
>I've been told that I move around a lot when I talk, I'm not sure if
>its my hands or my body that does this. Anyway, it's a little
>annoying, even if I am nervous, I hate being told that I come off like
>that. So, does anybody have experience with people saying you come off
>as too nervous and uneasy?

Guess I have but looking back I *was* displaying nervous
behaviour. We can often appear nervous when we try to hard not to
look that way. If you want to appear less nervous slow down your
speech and your actions. Leave a pause before answering someone
and take good breaths between sentences.

But really what does it matter? If you are anxiety prone then
it's best out in the open so you have nothing to hide. Your
co-workers were not trying to offend you and there are much worse
things you could be called than nervous.

As for your hand and body movements when you talk, don't try to
stop that. Physical expression is an important part of
communication and many people find it somehow sexy and
attractive. You are lucky it comes naturally to you. Perhaps your
colleages mean you come over as passionate rather than nervous.

Riccip
From: Skog on 14 Jun 2007 18:50
On Jun 10, 8:56 am, matrix <FalseParad...(a)yahoo.com> wrote:
So, does anybody have experience with people saying you come off
> as too nervous and uneasy?

No - more likely the opposite. I am probably seen as emotionless and
unreactive to what is going on around me.

From: John Sheppard on 23 Jun 2007 08:47

"Skog" <theskog(a)juno.com> wrote in message
news:1181861437.264816.290840(a)j4g2000prf.googlegroups.com...
> On Jun 10, 8:56 am, matrix <FalseParad...(a)yahoo.com> wrote:
> So, does anybody have experience with people saying you come off
>> as too nervous and uneasy?
>
> No - more likely the opposite. I am probably seen as emotionless and
> unreactive to what is going on around me.
>

To begin with i started off people noticing i was nervous and uneasy as the
problem got worse I become more emotionless and unreactive...

John


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