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From: gena D on 27 Apr 2007 03:58
iam so tired, anybody else feel like i do?

From: Mike on 28 Apr 2007 05:22
Apr 27: Responding to gena D...

>
>
> iam so tired, anybody else feel like i do?
>

Probably every full time carer on the planet. :(

The problem with full time caring is that the caring
typically only goes one way. I don't mean that in a bad way,
just that those who need the care often get so involved in
their own problems they fail to see the load on their
carers.

If there is not an effective mechanism to ragulate the cost
to the carer, then one just keeps on keeping on, never
seeing signposts that indicate we should have taken a break
here or there.

We don't take breaks of course, because we are always
chasing the "perfect game" where we finally achive some
goal, some ideal situation where we CAN take a break and
feel as if we've achived what we set out to. This never
happens because it can't, and we never take that break.

We need to learn how to take "half-way" breaks.

Either that or we end up falling over and then there are two
care-needers.



I was once asked what the most important times in my day
were. I figured they would be my most productive. I got the
quiz wrong. It seems that leasure time is the time that
should be protected. If you are on a break, you should be
unavailable. Totally offline. Not there to be scooped back
into things before you have rested.


Work out what YOU need.

Plan it, arrange it (lie if you need to).

TAKE THE BREAK!

And start this today. Ok?

--

Yellow Submarine?
Nah. Its a TeaPot!
www.tinyurl.382gmp
From: jjt5046 on 5 May 2007 08:12
me also

From: Roseb44170 on 29 May 2007 04:29
On Apr 28, 5:22 am, Mike <N...(a)Arizona.Bay> wrote:
> Apr 27: Responding to gena D...
>
>
>
> > iam so tired, anybody else feel like i do?
>
> Probably every full time carer on the planet. :(
>
> The problem with full time caring is that the caring
> typically only goes one way. I don't mean that in a bad way,
> just that those who need the care often get so involved in
> their own problems they fail to see the load on their
> carers.
>
> If there is not an effective mechanism to ragulate the cost
> to the carer, then one just keeps on keeping on, never
> seeing signposts that indicate we should have taken a break
> here or there.
>
> We don't take breaks of course, because we are always
> chasing the "perfect game" where we finally achive some
> goal, some ideal situation where we CAN take a break and
> feel as if we've achived what we set out to. This never
> happens because it can't, and we never take that break.
>
> We need to learn how to take "half-way" breaks.
>
> Either that or we end up falling over and then there are two
> care-needers.
>
> I was once asked what the most important times in my day
> were. I figured they would be my most productive. I got the
> quiz wrong. It seems that leasure time is the time that
> should be protected. If you are on a break, you should be
> unavailable. Totally offline. Not there to be scooped back
> into things before you have rested.
>
> Work out what YOU need.
>
> Plan it, arrange it (lie if you need to).
>
> TAKE THE BREAK!
>
> And start this today. Ok?
>
> --
>
> Yellow Submarine?
> Nah. Its a TeaPot!www.tinyurl.382gmp


I can't imagine caring for 4 people much less one! When I was taking
care of my mother there were those brief moments of respite that I
enjoyed but to be perfectly honest it was just something that I felt
that I had to do.

I remember when money was very tiight and I had to go back to work and
someone asked me how I could go back to work - didn't it bother me?
Well of course it did but when money is tight you do what you have to
do. In the end though I managed to be able to work from home so that
left me a lot of time to be able to be her care-giver.


Rose
http://members.aol.com/Roseb44170/home.html
"How in the heck did I ever get talked into this?"

From: Mike on 30 May 2007 18:33
May 29: Responding to Roseb44170...

[...]
> I can't imagine caring for 4 people much less one! When I was taking
> care of my mother there were those brief moments of respite that I
> enjoyed but to be perfectly honest it was just something that I felt
> that I had to do.
>
> I remember when money was very tiight and I had to go back to work and
> someone asked me how I could go back to work - didn't it bother me?
> Well of course it did but when money is tight you do what you have to
> do. In the end though I managed to be able to work from home so that
> left me a lot of time to be able to be her care-giver.

The first thing we need, and the last thing we ever plan.

Make it, fake it, but take that break!

An ounce of prevention... etc.

--

Yellow Submarine?
Nah. Its a TeaPot!
www.tinyurl.com/382gmp
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