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From: Kay on 23 Mar 2007 05:34 Last night i picked up my new car that ive waited 6 months for. I bought the car last year and gran was so excited that i had bought it. Gran died 7 november 2006. Well last night after i picked the car up i came unstuck and burst into tears as soon as i got round the corner from the car yard. Gran was so looking forward to picking it up and us going for a long drive and buying a ice cream. She used to love going on long drives. As long as she got a cup of tea every couple of hours she was happy. I cant even say im that excited in getting a new car. Its the first time ive had a brand new one. You think i would be but im not. I feel so uptight right now and i dont know why. sorry for rambling. Kay
From: BC on 23 Mar 2007 10:07 On Mar 23, 4:34 am, "Kay" <spam> wrote: > Last night i picked up my new car that ive waited 6 months for. I bought > the car last year and gran was so excited that i had bought it. Gran died 7 > november 2006. Well last night after i picked the car up i came unstuck and > burst into tears as soon as i got round the corner from the car yard. > > Gran was so looking forward to picking it up and us going for a long drive > and buying a ice cream. She used to love going on long drives. As long as > she got a cup of tea every couple of hours she was happy. > > I cant even say im that excited in getting a new car. Its the first time > ive had a brand new one. You think i would be but im not. I feel so > uptight right now and i dont know why. > > sorry for rambling. > Kay Hi kay, I'm glad your wrote your letter. The things you are describing are the most painful for me too. Its the small things you don't think about until someone is gone. I lost my mom last july. She was 82 yrs old. But my dad had taken over alot of things my mom used to do around the house, he had good intentions and did things to make it easier on my mom. For example, my mom lost alot of her hearing and used hearing aids so my dad would always answer the phone. My mom could hear on the phone but it was difficult. There were several other little things like going out to the mail box etc. While my dad was in the hospital with some minor surgery I started getting my mom back doing some things she missed. I ordered a phone that was for hearing impaired and was waiting for it to come, I told my mom about it and she was glad to be getting some independence again. Suddenly she passed away from a second heart attack, the phone came the next day!!! I just held it and cried. These are the things that just kill me. All of the trees and flowers are beginning to bloom here in Okla, my mom loved flowers and spring. I cant hardly go outside. So I understand what you're saying about buying your car. I dont worry about rambling here, lol, everyone is so thoughtful here, they understand. Please write again. All of our thoughts are with you Bob
From: only me on 23 Mar 2007 15:29 Hi Kay & Bob, I know what you mean about the little things that upset us when we come across them. I had ordered a calender book & a pocket one for my mom, she loved to be able to keep track of appointments & important dates,& always had one near her bed & one in her purse ,they arrived about 4 weeks after she passed away. I had forgotten I ordered them for her, it was a small thing but made me so sad, I still have them, unwritten in, & of course the year 2003 is long over now, I just can't throw them away. My thoughts with everyone here. Pat
From: Jo again on 24 Mar 2007 00:50 (((((((((((Kay)))))))))))))... .....I love my mom even if she bugs me at times-lies about some things and of course expects me to pay for her funeral when it is her time to die...I will probably be angry that out of 4 kids and me being the youngest of them, it ends up my responsibility and I plan to use that anger to get me through having to bury her when the time comes and of course I will also be angry at my older siblings for not hardly calling her like I do or helping her with finances...but you know there always has to be at least ONE family member to do the sacrificing...moms sacrificed for us and as thier kids, we should do the same...I will get over myself and my resentment and count myself lucky mom knew she could at least count on one kid to do right by her...she will be 80 in May...I hope she lives another 20 years...if she has to come live with me-I will get my spare bedroom ready and even if I resent having to clean up after her, at least she will know one family member will...I am sorry of I sound harsh but I have read many stories of women taking care of a parent...and resenting it even if they loved them....I am sure moms may have resented sometimes they had to take care of thier own kids or sacrificed for them...it just seems natural for the role to be reversed at a much later date... On Mar 23, 4:34�am, "Kay" <spam> wrote: > Last night i picked up my new car that ive waited 6 months for. I bought > the car last year and gran was so excited that i had bought it. Gran died 7 > november 2006. Well last night after i picked the car up i came unstuck and > burst into tears as soon as i got round the corner from the car yard. > > Gran was so looking forward to picking it up and us going for a long drive > and buying a ice cream. She used to love going on long drives. As long as > she got a cup of tea every couple of hours she was happy. > > I cant even say im that excited in getting a new car. Its the first time > ive had a brand new one. You think i would be but im not. I feel so > uptight right now and i dont know why. > > sorry for rambling. > Kay
From: gee on 24 Mar 2007 19:19
On Mar 24, 12:50 am, "Jo again" <josi...(a)aol.com> wrote: > (((((((((((Kay)))))))))))))... > > ....I love my mom even if she bugs me at times-lies about some things > and of course expects me to pay for her funeral when it is her time to > die...I will probably be angry that out of 4 kids and me being the > youngest of them, it ends up my responsibility and I plan to use that > anger to get me through having to bury her when the time comes and of > course I will also be angry at my older siblings for not hardly > calling her like I do or helping her with finances...but you know > there always has to be at least ONE family member to do the > sacrificing...moms sacrificed for us and as thier kids, we should do > the same...I will get over myself and my resentment and count myself > lucky mom knew she could at least count on one kid to do right by > her...she will be 80 in May...I hope she lives another 20 years...if > she has to come live with me-I will get my spare bedroom ready and > even if I resent having to clean up after her, at least she will know > one family member will...I am sorry of I sound harsh but I have read > many stories of women taking care of a parent...and resenting it even > if they loved them....I am sure moms may have resented sometimes they > had to take care of thier own kids or sacrificed for them...it just > seems natural for the role to be reversed at a much later date... > > On Mar 23, 4:34?am, "Kay" <spam> wrote: > > > > > Last night i picked up my new car that ive waited 6 months for. ?I bought > > the car last year and gran was so excited that i had bought it. Gran died 7 > > november 2006. ?Well last night after i picked the car up i came unstuck and > > burst into tears as soon as i got round the corner from the car yard. > > > Gran was so looking forward to picking it up and us going for a long drive > > and buying a ice cream. ?She used to love going on long drives. ?As long as > > she got a cup of tea every couple of hours she was happy. > > > I cant even say im that excited in getting a new car. ?Its the first time > > ive had a brand new one. ?You think i would be but im not. ?I feel so > > uptight right now and i dont know why. > > > sorry for rambling. > > Kay- Hide quoted text - > > - Show quoted text - sadly it is the little things that we miss the most. my thoughts are with everyone GEE |