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From: Tim on 31 Dec 2006 15:58
>


I held no malice against nutz until she decided to attack me
for what was an innocent and IMO informative post.
When i gave her proof that i was genuinely mentally ill she chose to
dismiss it thus adding insult to injury.
Due to past experiences i react badly to people having a go at me for
having done nothing wrong.


Some of the most traumatic experiences of people having a go at
me/punishing me when i have done nothing wrong include the following.

1) At age 9.I was at boarding school and waiting for headmaster to take
a class.I am sitting quietly as are some other boys whilst several boys
are getting up to mischief.Headmaster comes in and approaches me and
asks 'what are you doing?' I say truthfully 'I am doing nothing' meaning
i wasn't getting up to mischief.He says 'Well you should be and summons
me out for six of the best with the cane.

2) At age 20 my mother tells me if my then girlfriend and i will have
babies they will be funny.Minute or two later she says that i have
probably got her pregnant already.I ask her to apologise as i have not
even had sex with my girlfriend.
She makes out she said nothing.I keep asking rightly for an apology.
In the end rather than give an apology she makes out i'm distressing her
and with the aid of a pdoc i was given the choice between voluntary
admission or being sectioned. I was then in patient for next 9 months.

3)Year or two after the above.I had saved up my disability money to take
my girlfriend on a weekend break.
My father finds the tickets and goes ballistic.He shouts at me telling
me i am not supposed to use money for that and thumps hell out of me.






Thanks to experiences like the above and others besides that i do not
cope at all well with
being falsely accused/wrongly had a go at etc.


It makes me very stressed and upset and with it comes much paranoia
etc.

I tend to have an accute reaction in such situations including paranoia/
irrationality/ranting and raving/and saying outrageous things(which when
calm i would never say).Sometimes i experience derealisation as a result
of feeling so stressed other times i have a somatic 'flu like' symptoms
reaction.



I have been told that Rowland means well and i am willing to accept that
but i personally find his lack of diplomacy and somewhat 'in your face'
style of posting hard to cope with.
Certainly he doesn't score too well on the 'theory of mind' scale.

I will therefore if i decide to come back be blocking Rowland's posts
as a protective measure for myself.
He has issues and deficits that makes him post the way he does
unfortunately my own issues and deficits do not gel
well with his.




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From: Whiskers on 31 Dec 2006 19:16
On 2006-12-31, Tim <usenet(a)dysphoric.co.uk> wrote:

snip

I'm glad to see you still posting, and I sincerely wish you a better 2007
than some of the past years. I hope that a new year can mark a new start
on a better path - for you and the rest of us.

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-- Whiskers
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From: csaenemy on 31 Dec 2006 19:33
Thanks Tim, sorry that things seemed to get out of hand. I think blocking
is the answer. Take care,

Chris



--
Life is a waste of time,
Time is a waste of life,
Get wasted all the time,
And have the time of your life.
From: Mentally Sub-Normal on 31 Dec 2006 19:53


On 1 Jan, 00:33, csaenemy <csaen...(a)nospamyahoo.co.uk> wrote:
> Thanks Tim, sorry that things seemed to get out of hand. I think blocking
> is the answer. Take care,
>
> Chris

Is it? Personally, I think kill-files are counter-productive. If we all
blocked people we had issues with then this group would very soon
suffer from a lack of posts!

As I have said in a separate post to Tim, it isn't Rowland he's
blocking - it's reality and the truth. Rowland gave it to him straight
and he can't handle it. The thing is, he mght be able to kill-file
people here he cannot deal with, but that doesn't help him deal with
people he cannot handle in the real world, does it?

>From my point of view, if he (or anyone for that matter) can learn to
deal with annoying/undiplomatic/nasty/irritating people on a Usenet
group, surely that better equips one for dealing with the same in the
real world? Use it as a simulation for dealing with real life, that's
what I'm trying to do. I've not even kill-filed the trolls.

He might be able to run, but he cannot hide. These things have a way of
catching up with you eventually.


Sarah

From: csaenemy on 31 Dec 2006 20:03
There's another one to block

Chris



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Life is a waste of time,
Time is a waste of life,
Get wasted all the time,
And have the time of your life.
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