When to let kids meet new girlfriend
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From: Strutter on 23 Apr 2007 19:36 Excuse me if this question has been asked before, but when is the appropriate time to let children meet a person you are dating? My ex and I have some disagreements about this. I feel that I should be in a relationship long enough to know that it has the potential to be lasting before I subject my daughter (6 years old) to meeting the person I am dating. I don't believe that my daughter should be exposed to every person I go out with, or her mother, just for a matter of convenience. My ex wife has dated three different guys over the past five months, and now my ex is with someone new again. I asked her to please give her relationships time before having the person around my daughter, but the new guy is already wanting to go to my daughter's T-Ball games, etc. Am I crazy for thinking that it's unfair to my daughter to be exposed to these guys so quickly? Am I unreasonable thinking that my ex should wait six months or whatever amount of time it takes to see if the relationship will turn serious?
From: Animal05 on 23 Apr 2007 20:26 Strutter wrote: > Excuse me if this question has been asked before, but when is the > appropriate time to let children meet a person you are dating? My ex and I > have some disagreements about this. I feel that I should be in a > relationship long enough to know that it has the potential to be lasting > before I subject my daughter (6 years old) to meeting the person I am > dating. I don't believe that my daughter should be exposed to every person > I go out with, or her mother, just for a matter of convenience. My ex wife > has dated three different guys over the past five months, and now my ex is > with someone new again. I asked her to please give her relationships time > before having the person around my daughter, but the new guy is already > wanting to go to my daughter's T-Ball games, etc. Am I crazy for thinking > that it's unfair to my daughter to be exposed to these guys so quickly? Am > I unreasonable thinking that my ex should wait six months or whatever amount > of time it takes to see if the relationship will turn serious? > > > No, you are not being unreasonable
From: Bev on 23 Apr 2007 21:12 On Apr 23, 6:36�pm, "Strutter" <carey.hilb...(a)gmail.com> wrote: > Excuse me if this question has been asked before, but when is the > appropriate time to let children meet a person you are dating? My ex and I > have some disagreements about this. I feel that I should be in a > relationship long enough to know that it has the potential to be lasting > before I subject my daughter (6 years old) to meeting the person I am > dating. I don't believe that my daughter should be exposed to every person > I go out with, or her mother, just for a matter of convenience. My ex wife > has dated three different guys over the past five months, and now my ex is > with someone new again. I asked her to please give her relationships time > before having the person around my daughter, but the new guy is already > wanting to go to my daughter's T-Ball games, etc. Am I crazy for thinking > that it's unfair to my daughter to be exposed to these guys so quickly? Am > I unreasonable thinking that my ex should wait six months or whatever amount > of time it takes to see if the relationship will turn serious? In my opinion yes, absolutely, parents should wait long enough to get to know this person much better before subjecting their children to not only the heartbreak of continous loss and instability created when the relationship does not last and the child begins to build a relationship with the person themselves,but very importantly , because it takes a while to know for sure these people you bring into your childrens lives will not be a danger to them! You just can not know a person well enough in less than a year and that may not be enough time to really be sure things will work out! You are being very responsible to your childs mental,emotional and physical health ! Your ex wife should know better, shame on her ! Bev
From: Strutter on 24 Apr 2007 00:08 "'Kate" <noone(a)home.com> wrote in message news:pan.2007.04.24.03.41.54.26(a)home.com... > On Mon, 23 Apr 2007 18:36:31 -0500, Strutter wrote for all to see: > > How much child-free and non-work time do you each (the parents) have? > What does that have to do with her introducing my daughter to people on first dates, etc.? My ex works 30 hrs./week and has family that will take care of my daughter any time my ex will let them. I don't live close to my daughter, but I use every minute of three weeks of vacation to see my daughter. I also pay $8K/year in child support and another $6K/year in traveling expenses to be with my daughter. My 39 year old ex wife introducing her 25 year old boyfriends to my daughter just rubs me the wrong way a little. Especially since those relationships don't seem to be lasting too long.
From: Bev on 24 Apr 2007 00:35
On Apr 23, 11:08�pm, "Strutter" <carey.hilb...(a)gmail.com> wrote: > "'Kate" <n...(a)home.com> wrote in message > > news:pan.2007.04.24.03.41.54.26(a)home.com... > > > On Mon, 23 Apr 2007 18:36:31 -0500, Strutter wrote for all to see: > <snipped>� >I also pay $8K/year in child support and another $6K/year in > traveling expenses to be with my daughter. My 39 year old ex wife > introducing her 25 year old boyfriends to my daughter just rubs me the wrong > way a little. Especially since those relationships don't seem to be lasting > too long. Ya know......I thought you were thinking of your daughter when you posted about your ex's introducing her b/f's to the child. Now I see why your shorts are really in a knot. 8K a year in CS and 6K a year in traveling expenses does not make up for the limited amount of time you are spending with your child.Move closer, you can spend more time with your daughter ,save your 6K in traveling expenses,mind your own business about who your Ex is dating and you might feel better. |