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From: ankou on 5 Sep 2006 19:11
As I have posted before I lost my partner, Neal, in April. Since then I
have been in therapy and diagnosed with complicated grief and post
traumatic stress disorder . I am thinking of asking for meds as the
condition has not left me, I have good moments, sometimes hours, but
never days. My behavior has become even more erratic with frequent
angry outbursts. At times I do not know what is real, a dream or even
an hallucination. I am drinking and smoking (lung cancer killed my
lover) heavily. I am afraid. This seems too be going on too long.

From: Daisy on 6 Sep 2006 05:08
ankou wrote:
> As I have posted before I lost my partner, Neal, in April. Since then I
> have been in therapy and diagnosed with complicated grief and post
> traumatic stress disorder . I am thinking of asking for meds as the
> condition has not left me, I have good moments, sometimes hours, but
> never days. My behavior has become even more erratic with frequent
> angry outbursts. At times I do not know what is real, a dream or even
> an hallucination. I am drinking and smoking (lung cancer killed my
> lover) heavily. I am afraid. This seems too be going on too long.
>
You can't put a time limit on grief, after 9 years I still have the
outbursts as well, however, there's no shame in taking meds if you and
your doctor think you need them. Talking to others helps as well, I was
in counseling for awhile after my son died. Thinking of you.

Daisy
From: Fi on 6 Sep 2006 08:13
"ankou" <aankou(a)cs.com> wrote in message
news:1157497910.610277.240980(a)i42g2000cwa.googlegroups.com...
> As I have posted before I lost my partner, Neal, in April. Since then I
> have been in therapy and diagnosed with complicated grief and post
> traumatic stress disorder . I am thinking of asking for meds as the
> condition has not left me, I have good moments, sometimes hours, but
> never days. My behavior has become even more erratic with frequent
> angry outbursts. At times I do not know what is real, a dream or even
> an hallucination. I am drinking and smoking (lung cancer killed my
> lover) heavily. I am afraid. This seems too be going on too long.
>

It's been almost 10 months since I lost my husband and it is getting better.
I can go minutes without thinking about him...

I worked out a lot of my grief and anger through writing a journal. You may
find that helps you. Talking to others who understand what you are going
through can help too. If you haven't checked it out already, the Young
Widow's Bulletin Board is a great resource. Don't let the word 'widow' scare
you, there are men and women there from every type of relationship. Here is
the URL:

http://www.ywbb.org/forums/ubbthreads.php

It will get better - you may have to work hard at it - but it does get
better.

Fi


From: ankou on 6 Sep 2006 21:29
Thank you for all of your kindness. As usual this group is a great
source of strength and hope, more so then many friends who have not
experienced traumatic loss and therefore do not really understand. I
am rethinking the med situatian as it is too soon to tell and also am
not a fan of pills, but if it gets worse will do it. I need to
survive. Thank you again, Andre

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