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From: Jimbo on 30 Mar 2008 19:24
Dave,

Their is another group available to strictly urostomates since we
are way in the minority, and urostomy stuff tends to get overlooked.
You can join the group urostomy2(a)yahoogroups.com by sending an email
to Urostomy2-subscribe(a)yahoogroups.com, and you can jump in and join
us. My urostomy is just about 20 years old, and though there is
always the option of penile implant available to urostomates, the
wife and I who were married in excess of 20 years at the time,
discussed the condition and opted out of that solution for sexual
satisfaction. Love can be demonstrated (agreeably) in many ways
under adverse conditions. Additionally, others in the group may be
able to provide you with other 'solutions' to your dilemma. I am
one of two moderators with the group, the other being my bud from
the UK, and I hail from Pensacola, FL. Just don't give up.

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PcolaPhil


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"Dave111" <nospam(a)yahoo.com> wrote in message
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|I find myself in a quite depressing situation and could do with
some
| advice. I had urostomy surgery a few years ago and since then my
wife and
| I have not been sexually active apart from one attempt that did
not go
| well. She has now told me that she'd like to be able to find
someone else
| to have casual sex with because she cannot deal with my urostomy
bag. I
| don't know what to do about this. Our relationship in general is
poor, but
| we have a young family and don't want to split up. I have
suggested that we
| go to a therapist, but she says it won't help. I know she is very
depressed
| and frustrated at having no sex life, but I just don't know if I
can deal
| with her having a physical relationship with someone else. All
comments
| and advice appreciated. Thanks.
|
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From: Jim Kerr on 2 Apr 2008 19:41
I have had an ostomy for 9 years. I have also had an experience with the so
called "Open Marriage" concept. A word of advice. It doesnt work. If a woman
loves you, she will not ask you do do such a thing. There are other ways of
satisfying a woman. If she cant be content with those methods, tell her to
move on. In my experience, those that matter dont mind, and those that mind
dont matter.

Feel free to contact me if you need a friend. You sound like you do.

Jim

"Dave111" <nospam(a)yahoo.com> wrote in message
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>I find myself in a quite depressing situation and could do with some
> advice. I had urostomy surgery a few years ago and since then my wife and
> I have not been sexually active apart from one attempt that did not go
> well. She has now told me that she'd like to be able to find someone else
> to have casual sex with because she cannot deal with my urostomy bag. I
> don't know what to do about this. Our relationship in general is poor, but
> we have a young family and don't want to split up. I have suggested that
> we
> go to a therapist, but she says it won't help. I know she is very
> depressed
> and frustrated at having no sex life, but I just don't know if I can deal
> with her having a physical relationship with someone else. All comments
> and advice appreciated. Thanks.
>
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> Message posted using
> http://www.talkaboutsupport.com/group/alt.support.ostomy/
> More information at http://www.talkaboutsupport.com/faq.html
>


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