Reconciliation
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From: Erin on 8 Aug 2008 10:38 EB wrote: > > > EB > > > > Because it's not that bad, and he loves me and there is hope > > for improvement, as well as promises on his part. �I have seen > > situations much worse. �As I said, the future will reveal many things. > > > > Erin > > I seen situation much worse too. I've seen crack whores living next > door screeming at their kids. > I've seen child abuse and wino's smacking their wives around in the > open street. > I seen a woman pull a .22 out and shoot her husband because he was > suppose to have been out all night with another woman. > Just because there are degrees of "worse situations" doesn't mean you > should tolerate "lesser" degrees of bad behavior. > Hope for improvement? I hope so, because I don't think it can get any > worse for you. You can only up. > > EB I don't think our situation is comparable to the above examples, though i get your point. Consider that he has not slept with anyone, and he has always been there to help me if i need help. It is also quite possible that the OW is not a romantic involvement but a career dependence-- and when she comes to stay at his apt., comes with her husband. To be totally fair, i have to be objective, which is difficult because i know that there has been a personal break, but don't really know what the cause or causes were. Boy, this is approaching a book status in length, lol. Erin
From: AllYou! on 8 Aug 2008 11:35 In news:169343c8-cb71-4fbd-b24c-c08a9e098ba8(a)y21g2000hsf.googlegroups.com, Erin <squiggle(a)sympatico.ca> mused: > EB wrote: >>>> EB >>> >>> Because it's not that bad, and he loves me and there is hope >>> for improvement, as well as promises on his part. ?I have seen >>> situations much worse. ?As I said, the future will reveal many >>> things. >>> >>> Erin >> >> I seen situation much worse too. I've seen crack whores living >> next door screeming at their kids. >> I've seen child abuse and wino's smacking their wives around in >> the open street. >> I seen a woman pull a .22 out and shoot her husband because he >> was suppose to have been out all night with another woman. >> Just because there are degrees of "worse situations" doesn't >> mean you should tolerate "lesser" degrees of bad behavior. >> Hope for improvement? I hope so, because I don't think it can >> get any worse for you. You can only up. >> >> EB > > > I don't think our situation is comparable to the above examples, > though > i get your point. Consider that he has not slept with anyone, > and he has > always been there to help me if i need help. It is also quite > possible that > the OW is not a romantic involvement but a career dependence-- > and when she comes to stay at his apt., comes with her husband. > To be totally fair, i have to be objective, which is difficult > because i know that there > has been a personal break, but don't really know what the cause > or causes > were. > > Boy, this is approaching a book status in length, lol. If he's lied in counseling, then he may very well have lied to you about having slept with her. That's one of the factors that you've got to take into consideration as you make your decision. Not that he has lied, but that he very well might've lied.
From: Erin on 8 Aug 2008 12:51 AllYou! wrote: > In > news:169343c8-cb71-4fbd-b24c-c08a9e098ba8(a)y21g2000hsf.googlegroups.com, > Erin <squiggle(a)sympatico.ca> mused: > > EB wrote: > >>>> EB > >>> > >>> Because it's not that bad, and he loves me and there is hope > >>> for improvement, as well as promises on his part. ?I have seen > >>> situations much worse. ?As I said, the future will reveal many > >>> things. > >>> > >>> Erin > >> > >> I seen situation much worse too. I've seen crack whores living > >> next door screeming at their kids. > >> I've seen child abuse and wino's smacking their wives around in > >> the open street. > >> I seen a woman pull a .22 out and shoot her husband because he > >> was suppose to have been out all night with another woman. > >> Just because there are degrees of "worse situations" doesn't > >> mean you should tolerate "lesser" degrees of bad behavior. > >> Hope for improvement? I hope so, because I don't think it can > >> get any worse for you. You can only up. > >> > >> EB > > > > > > I don't think our situation is comparable to the above examples, > > though > > i get your point. Consider that he has not slept with anyone, > > and he has > > always been there to help me if i need help. It is also quite > > possible that > > the OW is not a romantic involvement but a career dependence-- > > and when she comes to stay at his apt., comes with her husband. > > To be totally fair, i have to be objective, which is difficult > > because i know that there > > has been a personal break, but don't really know what the cause > > or causes > > were. > > > > Boy, this is approaching a book status in length, lol. > > If he's lied in counseling, then he may very well have lied to you > about having slept with her. That's one of the factors that you've > got to take into consideration as you make your decision. Not that > he has lied, but that he very well might've lied. No it isn't. What difference would it make? Erin
From: AllYou! on 8 Aug 2008 13:32 In news:df139c3b-65cd-4265-a1a1-1a636f04205f(a)j22g2000hsf.googlegroups.com, Erin <squiggle(a)sympatico.ca> mused: > AllYou! wrote: >> In >> news:169343c8-cb71-4fbd-b24c-c08a9e098ba8(a)y21g2000hsf.googlegroups.com, >> Erin <squiggle(a)sympatico.ca> mused: >>> EB wrote: >>>>>> EB >>>>> >>>>> Because it's not that bad, and he loves me and there is hope >>>>> for improvement, as well as promises on his part. ?I have >>>>> seen situations much worse. ?As I said, the future will >>>>> reveal many things. >>>>> >>>>> Erin >>>> >>>> I seen situation much worse too. I've seen crack whores living >>>> next door screeming at their kids. >>>> I've seen child abuse and wino's smacking their wives around >>>> in the open street. >>>> I seen a woman pull a .22 out and shoot her husband because he >>>> was suppose to have been out all night with another woman. >>>> Just because there are degrees of "worse situations" doesn't >>>> mean you should tolerate "lesser" degrees of bad behavior. >>>> Hope for improvement? I hope so, because I don't think it can >>>> get any worse for you. You can only up. >>>> >>>> EB >>> >>> >>> I don't think our situation is comparable to the above >>> examples, though >>> i get your point. Consider that he has not slept with anyone, >>> and he has >>> always been there to help me if i need help. It is also quite >>> possible that >>> the OW is not a romantic involvement but a career dependence-- >>> and when she comes to stay at his apt., comes with her husband. >>> To be totally fair, i have to be objective, which is difficult >>> because i know that there >>> has been a personal break, but don't really know what the cause >>> or causes >>> were. >>> >>> Boy, this is approaching a book status in length, lol. >> >> If he's lied in counseling, then he may very well have lied to >> you about having slept with her. That's one of the factors >> that you've got to take into consideration as you make your >> decision. Not that he has lied, but that he very well might've >> lied. > > No it isn't. What difference would it make? The fact that he's untrustworth should be a very significant factor, IMHO, because you should not therefore be disappointed, and then unhappy, if you find out that he's lied
From: Bill in Co on 8 Aug 2008 13:51
AllYou! wrote: > In > news:1d8c2657-efe8-47af-b414-1ee8e17f401e(a)c58g2000hsc.googlegroups.com, > Erin <squiggle(a)sympatico.ca> mused: >> AllYou! wrote: >>> In >>> news:b29b040d-2f4c-4f54-a952-f5169096cb59(a)z72g2000hsb.googlegroups.com, >>> Erin <squiggle(a)sympatico.ca> mused: >>>> DH and I have reached an agreement. >>>> He wants me to take him back and I >>>> agreed. One false move and......... >>>> Just kidding. He was exceedingly >>>> sweet to me today and he is trying so >>>> hard. How could I resist? >>> >>> Let me count the ways........ >>> >>> Anyway, if you are to come close to happiness, just keep in mind >>> that you know what his behavior is, and you know what makes him >>> happy, and that you've made your decision in light of these >>> things, and yet, it's YOUR decision. Therefore, you cannot >>> validly feel victimized by your DH if he continues to behave as >>> he has, even if, in order for you to take him back, he promised >>> you otherwise. Don't forget, part of who he is, as you've seen >>> it, is a liar. >> >> I appreciate your posts AllYou!, however they are intended; and >> i think they are intended to help me. > > I'm glad to know that you know this, because it is true. LOL. Not according to your own Disclaimer. Maybe you ought to read it again? |