Reconciliation
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From: Tai on 14 Aug 2008 03:47 Erin wrote: > I hope that clarifies my side regarding personal responsibility. One > is > always personally responsible for a decision after all, but we would > not have marketing, advertising, or counselling if some other > perspective > did not have an influence. Erin, hasn't the decision to reconcile only every really been your husband's? He's the one who left and he is the one who may return eventually. The comments you have made about your counselling sessions have suggested to me that he has been determined not to come back unless you would meet his conditions, and not so much that he would meet yours. But you've wanted him back so you are the one making the most concessions to facilitate that. Have I got that correct?
From: Erin on 14 Aug 2008 07:18 Tai wrote: > Erin wrote: > > > I hope that clarifies my side regarding personal responsibility. One > > is > > always personally responsible for a decision after all, but we would > > not have marketing, advertising, or counselling if some other > > perspective > > did not have an influence. > > Erin, hasn't the decision to reconcile only every really been your > husband's? He's the one who left and he is the one who may return > eventually. The comments you have made about your counselling sessions have > suggested to me that he has been determined not to come back unless you > would meet his conditions, and not so much that he would meet yours. But > you've wanted him back so you are the one making the most concessions to > facilitate that. > > Have I got that correct? It's that black and white; it's more like my trying to see his point of view, and most of all trusting him. Erin
From: Erin on 16 Aug 2008 07:50 > > You're not sure that what is not love? > That i care enough to react. > >Erin
From: Michaela Mackenzie on 17 Aug 2008 06:10
On Aug 16, 1:50 pm, Erin wrote: > > You're not sure that what is not love? > > That i care enough to react. > > >Erin That you care enough to react to what? - Michaela |