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From: Erin on 20 Sep 2008 19:56 How come my friends, neighbours, even relatives are becoming less close now that DH is back? I miss their warmth and conviviality-- what's up with that? Erin
From: Bill in Co on 20 Sep 2008 22:11 Erin wrote: > How come my friends, neighbours, even relatives > are becoming less close now that DH is back? I miss their warmth > and conviviality-- what's up with that? > > Erin Maybe you're more tied up, now.
From: Rog' on 20 Sep 2008 22:41 "Erin" <squiggle(a)sympatico.ca> wrote: > How come my friends, neighbours, even relatives > are becoming less close now that DH is back? I > miss their warmth and conviviality... They either think that you are going thru a period of adjustment and giving you time+space to work things out; or they think that you are both looney- tunes and would prefer not to deal with it.
From: Kat on 21 Sep 2008 01:47 "Lauri" <laurinospam(a)nwidespam.netunspam> wrote in message news:d4gbd45cj621lu6haga749smn8f2up2u1j(a)4ax.com... > On Sat, 20 Sep 2008 22:41:04 -0400, "Rog'" > <rcblinnNoSpam(a)bellsouth.net> wrote: > >>"Erin" <squiggle(a)sympatico.ca> wrote: >>> How come my friends, neighbours, even relatives >>> are becoming less close now that DH is back? I >>> miss their warmth and conviviality... >> >>They either think that you are going thru a period >>of adjustment and giving you time+space to work >>things out; or they think that you are both looney- >>tunes and would prefer not to deal with it. >> > Or they're sick and tired of the drama. Or, rather than sick and tired of the drama, some might live for it... Which might make more sense if people tend to distance themselves when he's back (assuming things tend to get better rather than full of drama) and get closer when he's gone (assuming there's more drama)
From: mon on 21 Sep 2008 10:19
Erin wrote: > How come my friends, neighbours, even relatives > are becoming less close now that DH is back? I miss their warmth > and conviviality-- what's up with that? > > Erin I believe this happens because when two people become a couple, the couple tends to (lack of a better word) ignore the friends, neighbors and even relatives. I have seen it time and again when two people become a couple they tend to limit their access to only their SO, dismissing their friends, etc.. I think it is the couple that is not calling, inviting out, emailing/texting the others, not the other way around. I am not saying anything of this is a bad thing. If you want to cultivate your relationship, then this is what you need to do. Just realize that it is most likely not the "others" but the couple that is the issue. mon |