Partner Won't Leave House. Help!
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From: busted on 6 Nov 2005 13:02 <<The laws are such that...when my stbx felt that I should leave that he deserved the house, the kids, the car....he made my life absolutely miserable for over two years....on a daily basis. He knew there was no legal way to force me to leave! We both owned the house free and clear. He actually used to come out and say " i can't believe you're still here!" after all the abuse I took! Despite filing police reports of his abusive ways.... for my own safely and because I had somewhere to go and he didn't the Judge ordered me out for 90 days! It was the biggest mistake of my life to agree to that but I was battered, tired and beaten and at that point had he said, you will go to jail instead...it would have sounded WONDERFUL! Knowing now what I do... I should have refused and gone to jail instead! Yes, the laws make it easy!>> This story is not possible with an order of protection. It would immediately have the man jailed for being closer to 200 feet from you. In of itself, that sucks since an order is produced like tissue paper, but that is the case.
From: ms on 6 Nov 2005 14:37 as it happened... I filed a protection of abuse...(actually the court wanted me to file one against two of my sons as well, but it was because of his parental alienation tactics and they emulated his every word and action and I knew they didnt know what they were doing!0 he was removed for seven days he went the last day of his pfa to night court received a pfa against me LIED LIED LIED said he and the kids were fearful of ME!!! imagine????? brought to police...they wouldnt serve...knew retalitory (police know all about this man!) his brother put it my trunk and basically said..naaa...naaa i left to mothers for seven days hearing.. at the hearing... civil stay away order...return to house both of us!!! (learn how to live together) i got home first..reclaimed my bedroom that i left over six mos before...called locksmith put locks on doors. door litterally broken into by sons while he watched...they didnt like it NEITHER DID HE i was verbally, physically and mentally abused for over 2 years! he saught counseling...didnt help...made him more violent he gave me cards...im sorry for what i did..bought me jewelery, flowers, a car!!! to try and make up for all he did! I totally had it!!! FILED FOR DIVORCE AND SOLE POSSESSION AUG 03 HE FILED FOR POSSESSION TOO HEARING COMES UP AND his lawyer says...my client wants to sell the house due to back utility bills and my poor client has now where to go drunken brother being evicted *LIE: his lawyer then states can go live with mom...me.... i asked my lawyer...can the judge sell the house right out from under my sons? he said yes! i relented to live with my mother for 3 mos as ordered because of not only abuse from him and at the time my sons because he alienated me from them, but also because they would have no where to live! BIGGEST MISTAKE OF MY LIFE! since he had house.... and kids and i had no where to live (other than moms) and he didnt have to pay me a dime (for kids) he was as happy as hell!!!!!! court says why change it? haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa! Oh...it gets even better...that was only the begining Believe me anything is possible!!! and so far the more you lie and know how to play the system, be you a man or woman... it seems to work! I am just praying this new judge sees through the smoke screen .... I pray!
From: ~*LiveLoveLaugh*~ on 6 Nov 2005 15:04 "ms" <mpitc2000(a)aol.com> wrote in message news:1131305862.239243.269550(a)g43g2000cwa.googlegroups.com... > as it happened... > > I filed a protection of abuse...(actually the court wanted me to file > one against two of my sons as well, but it was because of his parental > alienation tactics and they emulated his every word and action and I > knew they didnt know what they were doing!0 > he was removed for seven days > he went the last day of his pfa to night court received a pfa against > me > LIED LIED LIED said he and the kids were fearful of ME!!! imagine????? > brought to police...they wouldnt serve...knew retalitory (police know > all about this man!) > his brother put it my trunk and basically said..naaa...naaa > i left to mothers for seven days > hearing.. > at the hearing... civil stay away order...return to house both of us!!! > (learn how to live together) > i got home first..reclaimed my bedroom that i left over six mos > before...called locksmith put locks on doors. > door litterally broken into by sons while he watched...they didnt like > it NEITHER DID HE > i was verbally, physically and mentally abused for over 2 years! > he saught counseling...didnt help...made him more violent > he gave me cards...im sorry for what i did..bought me jewelery, > flowers, a car!!! to try and make up for all he > did! > I totally had it!!! FILED FOR DIVORCE AND SOLE POSSESSION AUG 03 > HE FILED FOR POSSESSION TOO > HEARING COMES UP AND his lawyer says...my client wants to sell the > house due to back utility bills and my poor client has now where to go > drunken brother being evicted *LIE: > his lawyer then states can go live with mom...me.... > i asked my lawyer...can the judge sell the house right out from under > my sons? > he said yes! i relented to live with my mother for 3 mos as ordered > because of not only abuse from him and at the time my sons because he > alienated me from them, but also because they would have no where to > live! > BIGGEST MISTAKE OF MY LIFE! > since he had house.... and kids and i had no where to live (other than > moms) and he didnt have to pay me a dime (for kids) he was as happy as > hell!!!!!! > court says why change it? > haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa! > Oh...it gets even better...that was only the begining > > Believe me anything is possible!!! and so far the more you lie and know > how to play the system, be you a man or woman... it seems to work! I am > just praying this new judge sees through the smoke screen .... I pray! My GOD, "ms".... I don't know how you've managed to stay sane. My heart goes out to you. It's scary to read this stuff. That's why I do NOT want to have to go to court unless absolutely necessary. I'm SO sorry this has turned so ugly for you. Since I'm relatively new here, do you mind if I ask if these are YOUR sons, or step sons, and how old are they? Man oh man, my heart goes out to YOU, along with good ~vibes~ and prayers for your next court date!!!!! -- ?.??? ?)) -:?:- ?.?? .????)) Laurie ((??.?? ..?? -:?:- ((?? ?.? *~*LiveLoveLaugh, and hangin' in there!*~* "How disappointment tracks the steps of hope..." ~Letitia Landon
From: Mary_Gordon on 6 Nov 2005 16:17 For the love of mike, cough up for a lawyer. Where I live, if you have been cohabiting for 5 years, you are viewed as married in terms of how property gets split up, and lord only knows what the guy could take you for....even if you owned the house before he got there. You need to know exactly what your legal rights and responsibilities are STAT to protect yourself. And don't blink at the cost. It will save you in the longer run to know exactly what you are up against if he decides to be a prick, which is clearly where he's going with this. Laws vary from place to place (state to state, province to province, country to country). People in this forum are from all over, and can't know the precise fine points of the laws that will apply to you. Get thee to legal councel and get the straight and expert skinny. Mary G.
From: ms on 6 Nov 2005 20:39
How i do it is keep telling myself to stay on an even keel...that i can only try to continue to be a good person, no matter what others do to me. That has always been the way i lived no matter what. It is way beyond the "sticks and stones" saying in this situation, however as long as I believe in myself and believe that part of myself has rubbed off on my sons...I'm good and I've done my job! My mothers and fathers love and strong, stable influence ...was their greatest gift to me and although my sons father hasn't been a stable, loving, influence on their lives, I only hope I was and can be now and in the future. For that very reason, I remain strong (most of the time :) But, once this is over, after becoming almost obsessed with this, only because I have had to remember all this shat!!! (talk about the fight or flight instinct? I've got plenty of that in me!!) if anyone has a cabin in the woods. A VERY .desolate cabin, with nothing but birds chirping, a babbling brook, and the sound of an occasional racoon, even in the snow, I would be more than willing to inhabit it for a weekend away. I think right now I could use complete solitude!!! FO SHIZZLE ;) I promise not to make a mess!! ;) |