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From: Gregg on 23 Feb 2007 04:29
People reatives , even family members not my wife she understands me
having PSTD, but my Mother and older brother still think its a joke
why do I act the way I am like when people tap me on my left shoulder
I will jump, when I don't see who is trying to get my attention, also
they don't understand why me, who was pushed what the local police
list on the report as simple assult, me being pushed, throwen agiast a
wall, how to explain that reason of trauma to family and others?

From: samwem on 24 Feb 2007 10:10
On 23 Feb, 09:29, "Gregg" <cat21h...(a)aol.com> wrote:
> People reatives , even family members not my wife she understands me
> having PSTD, but my Mother and older brother still think its a joke
> why do I act the way I am like when people tap me on my left shoulder
> I will jump, when I don't see who is trying to get my attention, also
> they don't understand why me, who was pushed what the local police
> list on the report as simple assult, me being pushed, throwen agiast a
> wall, how to explain that reason of trauma to family and others?

Try to remember that PTSD is a psychological injury.... Though
physical scars might not show on your body, the scars on your psyche
are there... People will never be able to understand unless it happens
to them. Your psyche has been injured, just as surely as if you'd been
beaten up after being pushed against the wall. People dont understand
what they cant see. Just as your arm might take a long time to heal
ofter being broken / stabbed etc, and may NEVER be the same as it was
before, that's how it is for your mind. You may recover fully,
partially, or not at all ( sorry, not meaning to scare monger, just
tell it like it is ).

I was assaulted, and "luckily" for me I got plenty of physical scars
to show for it at the time, so there was never any doubt as to the
seriousness of the situation when people saw me. However, I'll bet you
anything that the same thoughts went through our mind at the time...
Anger, helplessness, terror, fear for your life, more terror... They
are all things that will trigger PTSD in some people.

My best advice for you is this... People will not understand no matter
what. Sometimes you'll meet someone who does, and they are worth their
weight in gold. If you want true understanding, speak to a
professional or a fellow sufferer.

One thing I'd suggest you try is EFT... It cured me of nightmares that
I'd had for 20 years in the space of 3 one hour sessions. I was lucky
I guess. I got some relief.

If you're intent on explaining to others, try using the analogy above
about the broken arm... it's the best one I've come across. Then try
and explain the symptoms. Perhaps evel point them at some of the
excellent web sites on the net. My mum still thinks I'm over it after
I spent a week in an ex forces home here in the UK... She doesnt get
the fact that I've had this 20 years, and it's not going away just
like that.

Best of luck.

Mark.

From: Nancy on 24 Feb 2007 11:10
Hi Gregg!

It was very difficult for me to understand that some people just do not want
to understand my PTSD.

My father and my sister believe, almost 15 years after my major breakdown,
that I am malingering.

I have given up trying to explain PTSD to folks who don't want to understand
.... for whatever reason.

YMMV

Smile and there will be something to smile about!
Nancy


"Gregg" <cat21hurt(a)aol.com> wrote in message
news:1172222961.462402.39680(a)a75g2000cwd.googlegroups.com...
> People reatives , even family members not my wife she understands me
> having PSTD, but my Mother and older brother still think its a joke
> why do I act the way I am like when people tap me on my left shoulder
> I will jump, when I don't see who is trying to get my attention, also
> they don't understand why me, who was pushed what the local police
> list on the report as simple assult, me being pushed, throwen agiast a
> wall, how to explain that reason of trauma to family and others?
>


From: Catz on 24 Feb 2007 18:19
Amen to that Nancy!!! I have had the same problem over and over again.
People simply do not want to understand and I don't bother to explain it
anymore. However, when I do occasionally meet someone who understands I am
overjoyed!

Catz
"Nancy" <kipco(a)cox.net> wrote in message
news:6sZDh.5744$qr5.2778(a)newsfe19.lga...
> Hi Gregg!
>
> It was very difficult for me to understand that some people just do not
> want to understand my PTSD.
>
> My father and my sister believe, almost 15 years after my major breakdown,
> that I am malingering.
>
> I have given up trying to explain PTSD to folks who don't want to
> understand ... for whatever reason.
>
> YMMV
>
> Smile and there will be something to smile about!
> Nancy
>
>
> "Gregg" <cat21hurt(a)aol.com> wrote in message
> news:1172222961.462402.39680(a)a75g2000cwd.googlegroups.com...
>> People reatives , even family members not my wife she understands me
>> having PSTD, but my Mother and older brother still think its a joke
>> why do I act the way I am like when people tap me on my left shoulder
>> I will jump, when I don't see who is trying to get my attention, also
>> they don't understand why me, who was pushed what the local police
>> list on the report as simple assult, me being pushed, throwen agiast a
>> wall, how to explain that reason of trauma to family and others?
>>
>
>


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