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From: Willow on 3 Jan 2006 00:33 Eat right always when you are around her but don't make comments about it. Have the right foods in the house without making a fuss about it. Get her engaged in physical activity without forcing her. Find what she enjoys. Stop telling her she's overweight and needs to loose weight or trying to get her to weight watchers n stuff.. You're well on your way to destroy her self esteem not to mention create a serious eating disorder. I know you mean well, but making her feel like she's fat and like she's doing everything wrong is certainly not going to turn her around. 143 lbs at 5'3 is barely out of the healthy weight range (top being 141).. for a teenager who's body is totally changing, it's not the end of the world. If you really want to help her, you can teach much more by exemple and encouragements than by criticism and by putting her down. I've been in her place.. -- Will~ "... so that's how liberty ends, in a round of applause." Queen Amidala, The revenge of the Syth. "Lisa M" <lisa(a)lmdesigns.com> wrote in message news:1135956052.213097.41130(a)g44g2000cwa.googlegroups.com... > Hi--I'm new to the group. Here's some background and some questions... > > My new stepdaughter is 13 and weighs in at about 145 at 5'3". She > doesn't care about her weight, and refuses to join Weight Watchers (I'm > on it and have about 5lbs to lose at this point.) She sneaks food > constantly, and when she's at her mother's house, she eats the same > fattening junk her obese mother eats. > > We'll be getting her to do more physical activity, but that has been a > challenge since all she wants to do is sit around & watch TV (or read, > thankfully!) Now, exercise will take priority over any other > activities outside of school--even if she has to give up some of the > extracurricular activities she's used to doing. > > My quandary: How do I get this kid to care about the way she looks and > DO something about losing weight? (We were considering making her go > to WW, but that will be a waste if she's not following it and > sneaking food.) I believe that if we don't put her on some sort of > program, she will continue to gain. > > I realize that much of her eating is emotional, and we're working on > that issue. At this point, I'm interested in crisis management, > since I believe her current trend is of crisis proportions. I was an > overweight kid, and I know how miserable that was, in addition to how > it lays the groundwork to a lifetime of weight management issues. > > Any advice would be appreciated! > >
From: Willow on 3 Jan 2006 00:55 AMEN -- Will~ "... so that's how liberty ends, in a round of applause." Queen Amidala, The revenge of the Syth. "ahmward" <nospam.ahmward(a)yahoo.com> wrote in message news:tOmdnQoMY9LiWCTeRVn-jw(a)giganews.com... > > "Lesanne" <larnim48(a)nothotmail.com> wrote in message > news:LXiuf.24501$tO4.15630(a)tornado.texas.rr.com... > > > I have a class beginning tomorrow and will be scarce around here, > > enjoyed this thread. > > -- > > Lesanne > > Are you taking a class or teaching it? I really enjoy your posts. > > I think I've raised three children with a very healthy attitude about > food, diet and exercise. All three are in their twenties. I think so > many people with weight issues have had problems with their parents so > they are naturally protective of children and want to shield them from > anything negative. I think if asked the question, have you ever sneaked > food, almost 99% would raise our hands. It's not uncommon at all. I > have never ever mentioned it to the one child of mine who has done it. > It is that child's issue to deal with but what I can do is provide a > nuturing environment, lots of healthy food choices and positive > reinforcement. Shoot, I need positive reinforcement myself all the > time. > > Audrey >
From: Nunya B. on 3 Jan 2006 18:57 I have the PC version. It required a USB adapter for PlayStation - then you can use any pad. The program has an "exercise mode" too. I haven't used it in a while since moving my home office to a smaller room of the house but we do have a den/exercise room now so I just need to put a computer up there. -- the volleyballchick "Lesanne" <larnim48(a)nothotmail.com> wrote in message news:Glmuf.16076$g_6.10862(a)tornado.texas.rr.com... > Okay, I have to admit, I want one for me..... > > -- > Lesanne > "Nunya B." <nunyadayumbidnez(a)gmail.com> wrote in message > news:41u4p3F1fkionU1(a)individual.net... >> >> "Lesanne" <larnim48(a)nothotmail.com> wrote in message >> news:ilguf.24469$tO4.3513(a)tornado.texas.rr.com... >>> Regarding exercise, the kids really seem to like those dance things. >>> Wish I knew what they were called, they put a mat on the floor and a >>> video comes with it - their kind of music. >> >> It's called Dance Dance Revolution and is available for all game formats >> including PC. It's actually quite fun! >> -- >> the volleyballchick >> > >
From: Gardenia on 4 Jan 2006 05:27 Hi Lisa. I was raised like your step daughter by a mother who would constantly feed me the wrong things, who had chocolate and buscuits and ice cream always around the house and who thought exercise didn't matter (she was so overprotective that she wouldn't let me out of of the house so I couldn't even meet with my friends or engage into some kind of physical activity until I was 17) and today I'm 38 years old and I'm still trying to lose weight. I am an obese adult and I was an obese child and an obese teenager. Please don't give up on your step daughter. I don't know the correct way to go about it but I think some of the ppl on this board gave you good advice. My mother loved me (and still does) lots and she didn't criticize me and she still says I'm the most beautiful girl in the world, but that didn't stop me from becoming obese and insecure about my appearance because she had never taught me how to eat right...she still is the same but these days I stand up to her and try to make my own food choices. Good luck and don't worry about some of the negative responses. I'm sure your step daughter will be grateful in the future if you handle this situation correctly now. -- Gardenia
From: Willow on 4 Jan 2006 15:22
To be a WW member kid needs a doctor note... hopefully no doctor would agree to this. -- Will~ "... so that's how liberty ends, in a round of applause." Queen Amidala, The revenge of the Syth. "Lesanne" <larnim48(a)nothotmail.com> wrote in message news:aKgtf.14448$g_6.12593(a)tornado.texas.rr.com... > > My quandary: How do I get this kid to care about the way she looks and > > DO something about losing weight? > > Okay. I am an R.N., now at goal weight, after having spent most of my life > "morbidly obese" and I too hate that term. I know quite a bit about eating > disorders and other emotional issues. YOU cannot get her to care about how > she looks. YOU CAN LOVE Her just like she is, and tell her that. If you > can't do that, you are out of luck if you want to have any positive effect > on this child. > > I agree with much of what Tayra said about rebellion. I also agree that she > could use professional help, but frankly she is not that overweight YET. If > you focus on it and try to force her to lose I can almost guarantee that you > will have the opposite effect and she will gain. > > Children her age do not belong on any sort of weight loss diet. She needs to > have more activity, and things done as a family, and a healthy diet designed > for someone her age who is a normal weight. If she eats that she will > eventually BE a normal weight. Re: activity... (does her father like > softball? Is he a normal weight? Can you walk together as a family? Buy one > of those mats with video and nasty loud music to dance to in the living > room?) > -- > Lesanne > > > |