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From: Patrick D. Rockwell on 18 Dec 2007 14:09
On Dec 18, 6:09 am, Noon Cat Nick <chatdemidiSPAMBEG...(a)hotmail.com>
wrote:
> Patrick D. Rockwell wrote:
> > This is just a preliminary message. I'm new to posting to this group.
> > Although I have been
> > aware of alt.support.grief.pet-loss for a long time, I never
> > subscribed to it until last
> > 10/04/07 when my beloved pet cat Chase died.
>
> > I've been pretty messed up about it since then. I wake up in the
> > morning depressed. I'm
> > writing a tribute to Chase which I'd like to post here. I know that
> > the F.A.Q. for this
> > group doesn't encourage people to attach binaries to their messages,
> > but rather to
> > post links to pictures of the beloved pets.
>
> > That's no problem. My problem is that I'm still mourning, and as I'm
> > sure you can all
> > guess, nothing that I say could be enough. It's not my intention to
> > write an epic poem,
> > but I'm up to six pages in the Word Perfect editor that I'm using.
> > already. I won't let it
> > get past 10, I promise, but this is something I have to do. The death
> > of my cat hit me
> > harder than anything else in the last 10 years, and that's saying
> > alot, so, I hope that
> > you my readers are willing to read my post and look at the pictures.
>
> > I hope that someone can give me some advice or encouragement. Thanks,
> > and God
> > bless you all, and those whom you love!
>
> Mourning is a process. No one can say how long it should take, nor how
> deeply one should feel toward the loss of their ccmpanion animals. My
> cats have been gone for years, yet I still get choked up whenever I
> think about them.
>
> However, conventional psychological wisdom recommends that, if after six
> months you're still mourning and in depression, it might be proper for
> you to seek grief counseling. Fourteen months is an unusual amount of
> time to suffer so.
>
> You should, by all means, remember and cherish and pay honor to the time
> you and Chase had together. After all, what you grieve is all the things
> you loved about him. But so much sadness for too long becomes too
> debilitating to handle.
>
> Chase is at the Bridge, looking down on you with love and remembrance
> for the life you two had together. Give the both of you peace. Find help
> so you can live and exist as happily as he would want you to be were he
> still here with you.
>
> * * * * * * * * *
>

Hi. Thanks for your words of wisdom and support. This is embarressing,
but when I
checked your reply, and my own message, I put the wrong date. She died
on
12/04/07. As of this date, it has been only 2 weeks. I apologize for
my typo, but
found it difficult to concentrate lately. I'll try to make my post as
soon as I can.

-Patrick-

> Farewell, my humans, yet not farewell,
> Where I go you too shall dwell.
> I am gone before your face,
> A moment's time, a little space,
> When you come where I have stepped,
> You will wonder why you wept.
>
> --Edwin Arnold- Hide quoted text -
>
> - Show quoted text -

From: bb on 20 Dec 2007 16:21
On Mon, 17 Dec 2007 23:30:31 -0800 (PST), "Patrick D. Rockwell"
<prockwell(a)thegrid.net> wrote:

> The death
>of my cat hit me
>harder than anything else in the last 10 years, and that's saying
>alot, so,

You are in good company here Patrick, post as much as you want, we'll
read it. Sorry to hear about the loss of your friend.

bb
From: jf2007jack on 21 Dec 2007 17:49
On Dec 18, 2:09 pm, "Patrick D. Rockwell" <prockw...(a)thegrid.net>
wrote:
> On Dec 18, 6:09 am, Noon Cat Nick <chatdemidiSPAMBEG...(a)hotmail.com>
> wrote:
>
>
>
>
>
> > Patrick D. Rockwell wrote:
> > > This is just a preliminary message. I'm new to posting to this group.
> > > Although I have been
> > > aware of alt.support.grief.pet-loss for a long time, I never
> > > subscribed to it until last
> > > 10/04/07 when my beloved pet cat Chase died.
>
> > > I've been pretty messed up about it since then. I wake up in the
> > > morning depressed. I'm
> > > writing a tribute to Chase which I'd like to post here. I know that
> > > the F.A.Q. for this
> > > group doesn't encourage people to attach binaries to their messages,
> > > but rather to
> > > post links to pictures of the beloved pets.
>
> > > That's no problem. My problem is that I'm still mourning, and as I'm
> > > sure you can all
> > > guess, nothing that I say could be enough. It's not my intention to
> > > write an epic poem,
> > > but I'm up to six pages in the Word Perfect editor that I'm using.
> > > already. I won't let it
> > > get past 10, I promise, but this is something I have to do. The death
> > > of my cat hit me
> > > harder than anything else in the last 10 years, and that's saying
> > > alot, so, I hope that
> > > you my readers are willing to read my post and look at the pictures.
>
> > > I hope that someone can give me some advice or encouragement. Thanks,
> > > and God
> > > bless you all, and those whom you love!
>
> > Mourning is a process. No one can say how long it should take, nor how
> > deeply one should feel toward the loss of their ccmpanion animals. My
> > cats have been gone for years, yet I still get choked up whenever I
> > think about them.
>
> > However, conventional psychological wisdom recommends that, if after six
> > months you're still mourning and in depression, it might be proper for
> > you to seek grief counseling. Fourteen months is an unusual amount of
> > time to suffer so.
>
> > You should, by all means, remember and cherish and pay honor to the time
> > you and Chase had together. After all, what you grieve is all the things
> > you loved about him. But so much sadness for too long becomes too
> > debilitating to handle.
>
> > Chase is at the Bridge, looking down on you with love and remembrance
> > for the life you two had together. Give the both of you peace. Find help
> > so you can live and exist as happily as he would want you to be were he
> > still here with you.
>
> > * * * * * * * * *
>
> Hi. Thanks for your words of wisdom and support. This is embarressing,
> but when I
> checked your reply, and my own message, I put the wrong date. She died
> on
> 12/04/07. As of this date, it has been only 2 weeks. I apologize for
> my typo, but
>  found it difficult to concentrate lately. I'll try to make my post as
> soon as I can.
>
> -Patrick-

You're not alone, Patrick; I've had cats in my family since I was a
young man, 30-plus years ago.

As each passed on, due to age-related illnesses, especially kidney
failures, - the grief was and remains far more painful than if chunks
of my heart were literally ripped out.

Yes, time, while never 'healing' the wounds, does kind of make them
recede a bit; Or we couldn't survive. Of that, I'm sure.

In time, some of us, if/when ready to do so, may find and adopt other
cats - never to 'replace' a loved one, since that's impossible! - But
*as additional* beloved ones to share our remaining life with; the
give and take of love, with these beings - IMO God's finest work, each
of them.

> > Farewell, my humans, yet not farewell,
> > Where I go you too shall dwell.
> > I am gone before your face,
> > A moment's time, a little space,
> > When you come where I have stepped,
> > You will wonder why you wept.

> > --Edwin Arnold- Hide quoted text -

Amen. After we've each passed on, may we all be Eternally and joyouly
reunited in Heaven with all whom we have ever loved, - humans and non-
humans! To never get parted from any of one another again!

Then, and from then on, all our agonies in this realm of existence
(sometimes called a 'vale of tears') will have been worthwhile.

JF

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From: ElvisRocks on 27 Dec 2007 23:13
So sorry for your loss. It's so hard...I've lost 3 cats and my husband
since 2000. It does get easier with time. I own a Yahoo Group, Furangels if
you are interested in joining - we talk about our babies, current and past.
Once again, my sympathy. I know how much it hurts. Carol
"Patrick D. Rockwell" <prockwell(a)thegrid.net> wrote in message
news:7551a038-a2c8-4cc1-81c6-87674d597370(a)i29g2000prf.googlegroups.com...
> This is just a preliminary message. I'm new to posting to this group.
> Although I have been
> aware of alt.support.grief.pet-loss for a long time, I never
> subscribed to it until last
> 10/04/07 when my beloved pet cat Chase died.
>
> I've been pretty messed up about it since then. I wake up in the
> morning depressed. I'm
> writing a tribute to Chase which I'd like to post here. I know that
> the F.A.Q. for this
> group doesn't encourage people to attach binaries to their messages,
> but rather to
> post links to pictures of the beloved pets.
>
> That's no problem. My problem is that I'm still mourning, and as I'm
> sure you can all
> guess, nothing that I say could be enough. It's not my intention to
> write an epic poem,
> but I'm up to six pages in the Word Perfect editor that I'm using.
> already. I won't let it
> get past 10, I promise, but this is something I have to do. The death
> of my cat hit me
> harder than anything else in the last 10 years, and that's saying
> alot, so, I hope that
> you my readers are willing to read my post and look at the pictures.
>
> I hope that someone can give me some advice or encouragement. Thanks,
> and God
> bless you all, and those whom you love!
>
> -Patrick-


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