Losing my son
in [Grief]
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From: TamiEarth2000 on 2 Apr 2008 10:26 My name is Tami. I am a 46yr. old mother of 3, was 3 till I lost my son just last September 2007, and am still grieving terribly for him. Yes, I have 2 beautiful daughters and 3 beautiful grandbabies, I couldn't be prouder, but I can't shake the grief I'm carrying for my son. It was such a sudden death, unexpected and all. Healthy as an ox he was. His name was John Charles Layton, and he was an angel walking this earth for nearly 28 years. I still need support.
From: Daniel on 2 Apr 2008 12:01 On Wed, 2 Apr 2008 07:26:15 -0700 (PDT), TamiEarth2000(a)yahoo.com wrote: >My name is Tami. I am a 46yr. old mother of 3, was 3 till I lost my >son just last September 2007, and am still grieving terribly for him. >Yes, I have 2 beautiful daughters and 3 beautiful grandbabies, I >couldn't be prouder, but I can't shake the grief I'm carrying for my >son. It was such a sudden death, unexpected and all. Healthy as an >ox he was. His name was John >Charles Layton, and he was an angel walking this earth for nearly 28 >years. I still need support. Oh Tami, I am so sorry about your loss of your son. You're still mother of 3 the way I see it. Always. Your mother love endures. When these things happen, words fail. Nothing I can say can pass along some secret to healing -- there isn't any secret. Six months is not enough time (a thousand years is not enough time) to be "over it" -- but it is long enough, isn't it, maybe for some others in your life to *expect* you to be over it. They just don't get it. We don't get over it, we don't forget and move on, we (at best) learn to live with the pain and separation. Thinking of you. You're not alone. I would love to hear more about your wonderful son and about how you're doing. Please write when you are able. Peace, -- Daniel ( deltaechomike(a)usa.net )
From: Cindy's Mom on 2 Apr 2008 16:57 On Apr 2, 10:01 am, Daniel <deltaechom...(a)usa.net> wrote: > On Wed, 2 Apr 2008 07:26:15 -0700 (PDT), TamiEarth2...(a)yahoo.com > wrote: > > >My name is Tami. I am a 46yr. old mother of 3, was 3 till I lost my > >son just last September 2007, and am still grieving terribly for him. > >Yes, I have 2 beautiful daughters and 3 beautiful grandbabies, I > >couldn't be prouder, but I can't shake the grief I'm carrying for my > >son. It was such a sudden death, unexpected and all. Healthy as an > >ox he was. His name was John > >Charles Layton, and he was an angel walking this earth for nearly 28 > >years. I still need support. > > Oh Tami, I am so sorry about your loss of your son. > > You're still mother of 3 the way I see it. Always. Your mother love > endures. > > When these things happen, words fail. Nothing I can say can pass > along some secret to healing -- there isn't any secret. > > Six months is not enough time (a thousand years is not enough time) to > be "over it" -- but it is long enough, isn't it, maybe for some others > in your life to *expect* you to be over it. They just don't get it. > We don't get over it, we don't forget and move on, we (at best) learn > to live with the pain and separation. > > Thinking of you. You're not alone. I would love to hear more about > your wonderful son and about how you're doing. Please write when you > are able. Peace, > -- > Daniel ( deltaechom...(a)usa.net ) Tami..the death of a child is so awful.My only daughter died on October 25,2006 unexpectedly. I will never get over the shock of it nor will I stop missing her. She was my best friend and confident for 38 years. I am trying to learn to live without her in my life, but she is still the first thing I think of each morning and the last at night. Now, some 17 months later I am beginning to be able to remember some of the times we had together with joy. But, that whole first year was the saddest part of my entire life. Like you I have 3 grandchildren and a son, whom I love dearly. But, they don't fill the void for the one that is missing . It does help to talk with others who are grieving. I joined a grief support group at my church which was painful, but did aid in the healing process. Just know that there are many others who are experiencing the pain that you are and can understand. Post to this group when you can and know that others can understand the loss you feel. Judy, Cindy's Mom
From: Noon Cat Nick on 2 Apr 2008 17:58 TamiEarth2000(a)yahoo.com wrote: > My name is Tami. I am a 46yr. old mother of 3, was 3 till I lost my > son just last September 2007, and am still grieving terribly for him. > Yes, I have 2 beautiful daughters and 3 beautiful grandbabies, I > couldn't be prouder, but I can't shake the grief I'm carrying for my > son. It was such a sudden death, unexpected and all. Healthy as an > ox he was. His name was John > Charles Layton, and he was an angel walking this earth for nearly 28 > years. I still need support. Rise up, slowly, Angel. I cannot let you go. Just drift softly 'midst the faces, In sorrow now bent low. Ease the searing anger, Born in harsh, unyielding truth That Death could steal my loved one From the glowing blush of youth. Rise up slowly, Angel. Do not leave me here, alone, Where the warmth of mortal essence Lies replaced by cold, hard stone. Speak to me in breezes Whispered through the drying leaves, And caress my brow with raindrops Filtered by the sheltering trees. Rise up slowly, Angel, For I cannot hear the song Which calls you through the shadows Into the light beyond. Wrap me in a downy cape Of sunshine, warm with love, And kiss a tear-stained mother's face With moonlight from above. Then, wait for me at sunset, Beside the lily pond, And guide me safely homeward To your world, which lies beyond. Just spread your arms to take me In reunion's sweet embrace, And we shall soar, together, To a different time and place. --Diane Robertson Take care, Nicholas
From: "Pam" p b on 3 Apr 2008 23:02
<TamiEarth2000(a)yahoo.com> wrote in message news:c54475f0-0273-4467-bede-79f71c70df79(a)l42g2000hsc.googlegroups.com... > My name is Tami. I am a 46yr. old mother of 3, was 3 till I lost my > son just last September 2007, and am still grieving terribly for him. > Yes, I have 2 beautiful daughters and 3 beautiful grandbabies, I > couldn't be prouder, but I can't shake the grief I'm carrying for my > son. It was such a sudden death, unexpected and all. Healthy as an > ox he was. His name was John > Charles Layton, and he was an angel walking this earth for nearly 28 > years. I still need support. I am sorry for your loss, my sister loss her daughter last May and she still needs support. Grief is such a personal thing. Everyone deals differntly. I have days that seem almost normal, and there are times when I am overwhelmed by the whole tragedy of my niece's death. I can't even begin to imagine how my sister copes. anyway I hope you find lots of support here. |