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From: Noon Cat Nick on 9 Apr 2008 01:18
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by TODAY correspondent Jill Rappaport
and the ASPCA

Losing a pet is a subject most pet owners never want to think about, but
unfortunately must deal with at some point.

I personally had to deal with the loss of two dogs, both more than six
years ago. I can honestly say that I have never gotten over it - I've
just gotten used to it. Even though one of my beautiful dogs, Shiner,
was riddled with cancer, and my other best friend, Hampton, lived to a
miraculous 20 years old, there was never a right time to say goodbye.

I feel it is so important to let people who are connected to their
beloved pets know that this kind of loss is, in most cases, equal to
losing a family member. Because, after all, pets are a part of families,
aren't they? There are people out there...who are there for you 24/7 to
help you cope with this devastating loss.

For those of you who are going through this now, I hope this story will
give you some solace. You are not alone, and it is so important to be
able to express your grief for that beloved companion who is gone from
your life, but never your heart.

Need some advice on how to cope? The ASPCA, the American Society for the
Prevention of Cruelty to Animals, offers answers to commonly asked
questions about dealing with the loss of a pet.

Q: What exactly happens when an animal is euthanized?

A: Your veterinarian has special training to provide your pet with a
humane and gentle death. Most often, he or she uses a two-step process.
First, the pet is injected with a sedative to make him calm and
comfortable. Next, he injects a special medication. These drugs function
in such a fashion that the animal experiences no awareness of the end of
life. The process is akin to undergoing general anesthesia for a
surgical procedure. The process takes about 10 to 20 seconds. The
veterinarian then checks to make sure that the animal's heart has
stopped. With this procedure, there is no suffering.

Q: Is there a "right time" to euthanize an animal? And how will I know
when that is?

A: If your animal has episodes of obvious suffering during the day or
night, it is appropriate to plan a euthanasia right away. Sometimes an
animal will continue to eat or drink in spite of pain, panting or
disorientation. If you are not sure how much your pet is suffering, keep
a daily record of the good times versus the bad times. Then you can
decide when the quality of life is so poor that it is time for you to
give him the gift of "good death." It is important to ask your
veterinarian for the exact signs of suffering likely to be associated
with the condition or disease that your pet has.

Sometimes people are tempted to delay the moment of euthanasia, because
we anticipate our intense grief. Unfortunately, we may regret that we
allowed the pet to linger too long.

Q: Is it normal for me to feel so angry/sad/confused after my pet has died?

A: There are many forms of grief that are completely normal. The most
distressing are hallucination-type experiences that leave an impression
that you are hearing familiar sounds of your pet walking or calling.
Some people even think that they see their pet out of the corner of
their eye, especially after just waking up. Often, it is the most
responsible owners who feel guilty and confused about the choices they
made regarding the end of their pet's life. Occasionally, a person may
feel temporarily angry with their veterinarian or others involved in
end-of-life issues. These feelings of anger may be our attempts to
distract from the ultimate encounter with the sadness of the loss.

Q: What are some things I can do to work through my grief?

A: The most important thing is to recognize that the loss of a beloved
pet is a serious event that society does not always respect. Your first
task is to take care of yourself. Make sure you get the rest and
nutrition you need, even when you feel distracted. Your concentration
may be impaired, too, so that you need to take extra care with driving
and crossing the street. Grief is a normal process, and time really does
heal.

Sometimes it helps to create a special place in your home to which you
can go when you want to remember your pet. Although remembering may be
painful at first, eventually that pain will turn into sweet memories.

Q: How long should we wait until we get another pet for the family?

A: Even though your house feels very empty, and your young children may
be asking for a replacement right away, it is best to wait at least one
month before bringing home a new pet.

When you're ready, you can check out the dogs and cats in your local
shelter. If you feel attracted to a new pet, don't worry that it is a
betrayal of the lost animal. Your ability to give a good home to a new
pet is really a compliment to your previous relationship.

For more information on pet loss, please visit the ASPCA's Web site
(http://www.aspca.org/).
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