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From: Erin on 4 Aug 2008 19:21 What do you think of people who sympathize with wife-beaters, and child-abusers? Why do some of them blame the victims and say they did something to deserve it, even in the case of murder? How do you convince such people that they are wrong? NO - I AM NOT TALKING ABOUT MY HUSBAND-- he never hit me. Erin
From: mom0f4boys on 4 Aug 2008 19:35 Erin, after my husband threw me down a few times, got arrested, and then we moved on (shakily), my family was very reluctant to be angry at him. I think it was a case of not wanting to mess with someone else's marriage. They actually went out of their way to be nice and warm to him. And it hurt me at the time. But I think people feel a HUGE tabboo when it comes to 'what goes on between partners'.
From: Erin on 4 Aug 2008 19:51 mom0f4boys wrote: > Erin, after my husband threw me down a few times, got arrested, and > then we moved on (shakily), my family was very reluctant to be angry > at him. > I think it was a case of not wanting to mess with someone else's > marriage. They actually went out of their way to be nice and warm to > him. > And it hurt me at the time. But I think people feel a HUGE tabboo > when it comes to 'what goes on between partners'. @^%#@&%)O(*!)**&!!!! cowards! Erin
From: S.D. on 4 Aug 2008 19:55 On Mon, 4 Aug 2008 16:21:47 -0700 (PDT), Erin wrote: > What do you think of people who sympathize > with wife-beaters, and child-abusers? Why > do some of them blame the victims and say they did something > to deserve it, even in the case of murder? How > do you convince such people that they are wrong? All it takes is someone with their own hidden issues, then exposure to an abuser and the abusers victim. You can't convince anyone that thinks that way regardless. That kind of help needs to be uncovered in therapy.
From: Erin on 4 Aug 2008 20:36
S.D. wrote: > On Mon, 4 Aug 2008 16:21:47 -0700 (PDT), Erin wrote: > > > What do you think of people who sympathize > > with wife-beaters, and child-abusers? Why > > do some of them blame the victims and say they did something > > to deserve it, even in the case of murder? How > > do you convince such people that they are wrong? > > All it takes is someone with their own hidden issues, then exposure to > an abuser and the abusers victim. You can't convince anyone that thinks > that way regardless. That kind of help needs to be uncovered in > therapy. Therapy that should be fortified with a bodyguard or police, i should think. Erin |