Depression at 40
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From: vauxall on 5 Feb 2007 10:00 Hello people, In a few weeks I'll be 40. This thought has awakened my worst long- time enemy: depression. I had the first serious episode at 20, then at 31 (with a nearly suicide attempt) and then now. Looks like I'm very vulnerable to the calendar! After my episode at 31, I though I had reached the bottom and it was ok till a few weeks ago: now: crisis! To the outside world, I'm handling it well, I just look a bit more serious but inside I'm shaking. Of course it has to do with failing all my main targets and not being able to recognize myself with people of my age ( I have no children, no family, no wife/girlfriend). But enough of me. Can anybody point me to serious literature on this specific subject: depression at 40? Thanks Vauxall
From: Doug Laidlaw on 6 Feb 2007 06:08 vauxall wrote: > Hello people, > > In a few weeks I'll be 40. This thought has awakened my worst long- > time enemy: depression. > > I had the first serious episode at 20, then at 31 (with a nearly > suicide attempt) and then now. Looks like I'm very vulnerable to the > calendar! > > After my episode at 31, I though I had reached the bottom and it was > ok till a few weeks ago: now: crisis! > > To the outside world, I'm handling it well, I just look a bit more > serious but inside I'm shaking. > > Of course it has to do with failing all my main targets and not being > able to recognize myself with people of my age ( I have no children, > no family, no wife/girlfriend). > > But enough of me. Can anybody point me to serious literature on this > specific subject: depression at 40? > > Thanks > > Vauxall I got it at 60. At 40, you tend to realize that you won't achieve all your dreams. That is a known problem for people liable to depression. I was O.K. until I quit work and lost my "reason for being here". My stuff has more to do with retirement, but the issue is the same. You need to see that there are alternatives to what you saw as important before. I was lucky: my wife stuck by me. You could always find a girlfriend, but really, you need to regain your sense of worth first. I have a Web site listing links for men with depression: see http://members.iinet.net.au/~tomlai1/links.htm I can particularly recommend http://www.maledepression.com/ or its sister site in Ireland http://www.theblackdog.net/ I have saved a Google Search for "depression in retirement" which has plenty of hits. Doug. -- The place for the knocker is outside the door. - W.G.P.
From: Cathy on 23 Feb 2007 11:02 I have a sizable bibliography on my mental health page. Off the top of my head, I don't know if their are specific books or articles listed there for people 40 or older (though their might be some for geriatric psych but I don't think you qualify for that quite yet! :) ) But take a look at it. You might want to check some of the books out at the library and then if you want, buy any you that you would like to have around the house for your private library! Cathy My Blog: http://360.yahoo.com/mensan_cathy Mensa Postcard Pals SIG: http://www.geocities.com/mensan_cathy/1KSIG.html Camp Anawana: http://www.geocities.com/kutsherscampanawana Postcard Site: http://www.geocities.com/mensan_cathy Hewlett High School: http://www.geocities.com/hewlettalumni Mental Health: http://www.geocities.com/postcard_cathy
From: Doug Laidlaw on 26 Feb 2007 07:06 <posted & mailed> Cathy wrote: > I have a sizable bibliography on my mental health page. Off the top > of my head, I don't know if their are specific books or articles > listed there for people 40 or older (though their might be some for > geriatric psych but I don't think you qualify for that quite > yet! :) ) But take a look at it. You might want to check some of > the books out at the library and then if you want, buy any you that > you would like to have around the house for your private library! > > Cathy > My Blog: http://360.yahoo.com/mensan_cathy > Mensa Postcard Pals SIG: http://www.geocities.com/mensan_cathy/1KSIG.html > Camp Anawana: http://www.geocities.com/kutsherscampanawana > Postcard Site: http://www.geocities.com/mensan_cathy > Hewlett High School: http://www.geocities.com/hewlettalumni > Mental Health: http://www.geocities.com/postcard_cathy The one I saw for geriatric psychiatry at your page was more for practitioners than for sufferers. I am now 60, and would like to see something for older people, but I don't know enough. I mentioned before a guy who told his story at kuro5hin. He now has a "wikibook" at http://en.wikibooks.org/wiki/Demystifying_Depression/ . Many (including myself) have told him that his statements are not substantiated and not representative, but he is quite determined to publish it as it stands. I have included my own background in the Discussion page just to demonstrate that he and I are so different, and so he _can't_ generalize. Because of the range of cases of depression, I would not even attempt anything similar. From my own point of view, I have read so much about depression that further reading is now counter-productive. I am more interested in living my answer. Doug L. -- They change their climate, not their soul, who run beyond the sea. - Horace, Roman poet, 1st c. B.C.
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