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From: Teri on 22 Mar 2007 17:38 Hi. I am the stepmother of a 6 year old girl. My husband and I are non-custodial but very involved in her upbringing. Stepdaughter, her mother, and mother's boyfriend just moved to another city and enrolled SD in a new school. My question is about emergency contacts. Who has the legal right to approve emergency treatment of my SD? I know my husband and her mother do, but do I? With the mother's boyfriend, she goes around calling the boyfriend SD's stepdad and saying they have a common law marriage - but the boyfriend is still married to someone else so I don't think that's legally possible. So if he's just her boyfriend and not a common-law husband/stepdad, can he approve emergency treatment of my SD? I'm concerned that SD's mother might have just listed herself and her boyfriend as emergency contacts at the school, so I'm concerned that the boyfriend even if reached wouldn't be able to give approval for emergencies so he wouldn't be a reasonable alternate for SD's mother. TIA, Teri
From: Kathleen on 22 Mar 2007 20:06 What does your custody papers say? With hope and heart, Kathleen -- He Himself is the fuel our spirits were designed to burn, or the food our spirits were designed to feed on. There is no other. ~ C.S.Lewis "Teri" <snowfleurry(a)no.yahoo.com> wrote in message news:-IKdnQS4CJ-nap_bnZ2dnUVZ_qmpnZ2d(a)wightman.ca... > Hi. > > I am the stepmother of a 6 year old girl. My husband and I are > non-custodial but very involved in her upbringing. Stepdaughter, her > mother, and mother's boyfriend just moved to another city and enrolled SD in > a new school. My question is about emergency contacts. Who has the legal > right to approve emergency treatment of my SD? I know my husband and her > mother do, but do I? > > With the mother's boyfriend, she goes around calling the boyfriend SD's > stepdad and saying they have a common law marriage - but the boyfriend is > still married to someone else so I don't think that's legally possible. So > if he's just her boyfriend and not a common-law husband/stepdad, can he > approve emergency treatment of my SD? > > I'm concerned that SD's mother might have just listed herself and her > boyfriend as emergency contacts at the school, so I'm concerned that the > boyfriend even if reached wouldn't be able to give approval for emergencies > so he wouldn't be a reasonable alternate for SD's mother. > > TIA, > > Teri > >
From: Banty on 22 Mar 2007 20:11 In article <56ggehF27ugg2U1(a)mid.individual.net>, Kathleen says... > >What does your custody papers say? >With hope and heart, >Kathleen And your husband? Banty
From: Slightly Graying Wolf on 22 Mar 2007 20:22 "Teri" <snowfleurry(a)no.yahoo.com> wrote in message news:-IKdnQS4CJ-nap_bnZ2dnUVZ_qmpnZ2d(a)wightman.ca... > Hi. > > I am the stepmother of a 6 year old girl. My husband and I are > non-custodial but very involved in her upbringing. Stepdaughter, her > mother, and mother's boyfriend just moved to another city and enrolled SD > in a new school. My question is about emergency contacts. Who has the > legal right to approve emergency treatment of my SD? I know my husband > and her mother do, but do I? > > With the mother's boyfriend, she goes around calling the boyfriend SD's > stepdad and saying they have a common law marriage - but the boyfriend is > still married to someone else so I don't think that's legally possible. > So if he's just her boyfriend and not a common-law husband/stepdad, can he > approve emergency treatment of my SD? > > I'm concerned that SD's mother might have just listed herself and her > boyfriend as emergency contacts at the school, so I'm concerned that the > boyfriend even if reached wouldn't be able to give approval for > emergencies so he wouldn't be a reasonable alternate for SD's mother. 1) In the divorce documents who has guardianship rights? The Mother or is it equally shared? Custody and Guardianship are two separate issues and should be spelled out in the divorce. 2) Even marriage (or common law marriage) to a CP does not give the new parent any automatic guardianship rights. If your spouse's ex is the child's only guardian she may have the right and the power to register her partner as a guardian without your spouses permission. In my case I have/had 50/50 custody and guardianship of my two boys (only one is now a minor) and (as I had to point out to my ex) her husband can not make life or death decisions for our children now or ever, as I will never give him the right! She had put her husband down as the secondary contact at the school and I had it changed to me. John
From: Kathleen on 22 Mar 2007 22:31
In my case, in the US, I had the right to be secondary contact on all the school papers, but they erased all traces of me and my information anyway. I had to go in to the school with my papers. With hope and heart, Kathleen -- He Himself is the fuel our spirits were designed to burn, or the food our spirits were designed to feed on. There is no other. ~ C.S.Lewis > > Hi. > > > > I am the stepmother of a 6 year old girl. My husband and I are > > non-custodial but very involved in her upbringing. Stepdaughter, her > > mother, and mother's boyfriend just moved to another city and enrolled SD > > in a new school. My question is about emergency contacts. Who has the > > legal right to approve emergency treatment of my SD? I know my husband > > and her mother do, but do I? > > > > With the mother's boyfriend, she goes around calling the boyfriend SD's > > stepdad and saying they have a common law marriage - but the boyfriend is > > still married to someone else so I don't think that's legally possible. > > So if he's just her boyfriend and not a common-law husband/stepdad, can he > > approve emergency treatment of my SD? > > > > I'm concerned that SD's mother might have just listed herself and her > > boyfriend as emergency contacts at the school, so I'm concerned that the > > boyfriend even if reached wouldn't be able to give approval for > > emergencies so he wouldn't be a reasonable alternate for SD's mother. > > 1) In the divorce documents who has guardianship rights? The Mother or is it > equally shared? Custody and Guardianship are two separate issues and should > be spelled out in the divorce. > > 2) Even marriage (or common law marriage) to a CP does not give the new > parent any automatic guardianship rights. If your spouse's ex is the child's > only guardian she may have the right and the power to register her partner > as a guardian without your spouses permission. > > In my case I have/had 50/50 custody and guardianship of my two boys (only > one is now a minor) and (as I had to point out to my ex) her husband can not > make life or death decisions for our children now or ever, as I will never > give him the right! She had put her husband down as the secondary contact at > the school and I had it changed to me. > > John > > |