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From: nettripper2002@yahoo.com on 2 Mar 2006 15:48
I was constantly teased in high school, got a nickname, was never
called by my real name. I basically fell all the way down the social
ladder, was very popular in grade school. But in high school a cousin
of mine moved to our small little town. We were best of friends until
he moved to our school and he was the one who gave me my nickname and
cut me down in front of my friends and his friends. (He was 2 years
older than me). Soon everyone did it to me and I think this was setting
the stage for my social phobia and avoidance personality disorder. What
do you all think? Plus what meds would help me as my Dr. won't give me
any benzo's as I am chemically dependant.
TIA
JoeJoe

From: riccip-uk on 4 Mar 2006 15:40
"nettripper2002(a)yahoo.com" <nettripper2002(a)yahoo.com> wrote:

>I was constantly teased in high school, got a nickname, was never
>called by my real name. I basically fell all the way down the social
>ladder, was very popular in grade school. But in high school a cousin
>of mine moved to our small little town. We were best of friends until
>he moved to our school and he was the one who gave me my nickname and
>cut me down in front of my friends and his friends. (He was 2 years
>older than me). Soon everyone did it to me and I think this was setting
>the stage for my social phobia and avoidance personality disorder. What
>do you all think?

You had a bad time there. Something similar happened to me when a
new kid came to our school. I seemed powerless to stand up for
myself back then and succumbed to ritual humiliation. If I met
him today it would be a different matter. I'd rearrange his face.
:-)

But he wasn't to blame for my SP and I doubt whether your own
experiences triggered yours. People do endure some terrible
childhoods, many far worse than ours, yet they don't go on to
become SP. I believe in our case we were born genetically
programmed for anxiety disorder and it manifested itself as SP
possibly due to hormonal changes in adolescence. From there it
metamorphosises into a deep rooted psychological condition and
the more we struggle against it the more enmeshed we become.

My advice is don't waste energy seeking causes. Say if you could
identify a definite cause, would it make a single scrap of
difference? SP is not something you can just solve, you must
learn to rise above it. Recovery lies in today and tomorrow, not
in our yesterdays.

The past holds only painful memories as regards SP. We don't need
to carry any excess baggage on this journey so they are best left
behind.

Riccip
From: LUV2AV8 on 5 Mar 2006 21:20
"SP is not something you can just solve, you must
learn to rise above it. Recovery lies in today and tomorrow, not
in our yesterdays".

Very well said.

riccip-uk wrote:
>
> "nettripper2002(a)yahoo.com" <nettripper2002(a)yahoo.com> wrote:
>
> >I was constantly teased in high school, got a nickname, was never
> >called by my real name. I basically fell all the way down the social
> >ladder, was very popular in grade school. But in high school a cousin
> >of mine moved to our small little town. We were best of friends until
> >he moved to our school and he was the one who gave me my nickname and
> >cut me down in front of my friends and his friends. (He was 2 years
> >older than me). Soon everyone did it to me and I think this was setting
> >the stage for my social phobia and avoidance personality disorder. What
> >do you all think?
>
> You had a bad time there. Something similar happened to me when a
> new kid came to our school. I seemed powerless to stand up for
> myself back then and succumbed to ritual humiliation. If I met
> him today it would be a different matter. I'd rearrange his face.
> :-)
>
> But he wasn't to blame for my SP and I doubt whether your own
> experiences triggered yours. People do endure some terrible
> childhoods, many far worse than ours, yet they don't go on to
> become SP. I believe in our case we were born genetically
> programmed for anxiety disorder and it manifested itself as SP
> possibly due to hormonal changes in adolescence. From there it
> metamorphosises into a deep rooted psychological condition and
> the more we struggle against it the more enmeshed we become.
>
> My advice is don't waste energy seeking causes. Say if you could
> identify a definite cause, would it make a single scrap of
> difference? SP is not something you can just solve, you must
> learn to rise above it. Recovery lies in today and tomorrow, not
> in our yesterdays.
>
> The past holds only painful memories as regards SP. We don't need
> to carry any excess baggage on this journey so they are best left
> behind.
>
> Riccip
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