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From: Tracey on 15 Mar 2007 15:12


millsdebbie2001(a)rogers.com wrote:
> His father just told me my
> step son was not "very impressed" that I would not let him come back
> to stay with us. I would be interested in what other people think of
> this.

A few years ago, we were faced with a request from my youngest stepson
where he wanted to move in with us. Due to many, many factors, *I* was
totally against him living with us. I was perfectly willing to have
him *stay* with us for a short period of time (technically, he was
only allowed to stay with us for 30 days unless we put in a request
otherwise) to give him time to get a job, get his bearings, etc. My
husband, OTOH, was of the 'Sure! Come on out!' persuasion. After a
few days of back and forth on this newsgroup and in my head, I rea-
lized that my biggest fear was that my stepson coming to live with
us would cause undue strain on our marriage, which wasn't so hot at
the time to begin with. I addressed this concern with my husband and,
together, we came up with a plan of action where my husband could get
what he wanted (his son to move here) and I could get what I wanted
(no open-ended living arrangement, or at least as best as we could
manage it.)

It ended up being a moot issue since, when presented with the require-
ments of moving here (open-ended return ticket back to the Mainland,
enough cash to buy a car and have a reserve for getting an apartment,
only being allowed to live with us for 30 days before having to move
out, etc.,) my stepson didn't mention moving here again.

Tracey


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