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From: Helping Hands on 27 Jan 2008 13:12
If you're looking for ways to stop blushing and boost your self esteem
and self confidence socially and personally, read my most powerful top
ten tips. Get where you need to be in your life without blushing or
feeling inferior any longer.

1. Ask for your self confidence back for a minute

At some point in your life, you have experienced healthy levels of
self confidence. If you did not, then you would not feel the need to
acquire it now. It's like someone who has never experimented with
drugs suddenly saying "I need another fix of heroin..."

Therefore, if you know you have experienced confidence, you now know
that it is perfectly possible to experience it again. In other words,
there is nothing in the way your brain is shaped, the way your brain
thinks or the things you do with yourself from day to day that can
actually physically stop you from feeling confident.

This might sound weird to you, but it's actually true.

Nothing has changed physically since you last felt like a million
dollars that can possibly change the way your brain works. It can
still feel confident, if you let it. So think back to a time when you
felt confident and try to close your eyes and remember what you felt
physically, what your voice sounded like and how people reacted to
you.

The more you do this, the easier your mind will be able to re-trigger
its' own ability to feel those forgotten emotions.

Just think of it like a broken down car that takes ages to start, the
more you rev the engine and turn the key (and maybe get some people to
push from behind), the quicker you'll be up to full speed and onto
your journey safely home.

Be as detailed about this experience as you can so that it is vivid in
your mind. Refer to this experience to remind you that you have been
confident before and will be again!

2. Chart Your Winnings

Write down things you've been successful at in the past, even earlier
today. It doesn't have to be winning a marathon or landing on the
moon, just things that you executed successfully. Perhaps you finished
all your work on time, made someone smile, cooked a great dinner or
just got home in one piece (which is a success in this day and age!)

In other words, success is anything that you've done that has made you
proud of yourself. But what if you haven't done a single thing all day
or all week/month or year (highly unlikely)...then DO something
tonight. Clean the house, cook someone dinner, give someone a gift,
write a poem, learn something by reading a book...whatever, just do
it...today.

Record all your successes in a book, album or folder. Tuck it away
within reaching distance of where you frequent. Perhaps your home
office, your computer, T.V, workspace or bedside table?

When your confidence is low, read your own success stories to remind
you that you have been successful in the past, and of course that you
have the ability to be as (if not more) successful in the
future...never stop improving yourself.

You have the ability to improve all areas of your life, no matter who
you are or what you do. Self improvement is the source of every good
thing that enters your life, and is responsible for every negative
thing that leaves your life. Write that down...

3. Visualize yourself with success and high self esteem.

See the person you would be if you were a success from the outside,
study him/her, how they walk, breath, talk and etc. Now try to be one
with that person in your mind, it will be hard to do at first, but if
you make this a daily assignment for yourself, it will get easier, and
it will work wonders for your self esteem and self confidence.

4. Set goals for you, not them

Do it for yourself, plan your own successes, and reward yourself, at
least emotionally by praising yourself whenever you achieve some sort
of success or small step towards success. Don't forget, success and
personal development/achievement is made up of many small steps. Don't
discount the small steps as "not quite making it work". I have known
people 2 simple steps away from becoming millionaires, yet passed
everything up at the last two steps. Don't follow their path!

Make small achievable goals to begin with, it is a great confidence
booster to achieve a goal, no matter how small it may seem to others.
However, do not settle for overall goals that are too small. You will
never get out of bed each day if your goal is just to "get through the
day" at work.

5. Speak with your limbs.

We've all been in social situations where someone leaps into a room,
makes eye contact and starts chatting with everyone around. There are
no averages in this world, just people who believe and people who want
to believe. Make your choice. If you learn to believe in yourself,
don't even think about who you are or what people might
think...because you don't need to know that. All you need to know is
that you are the person that has every right to walk this floating
rock as the next.

In my case, I couldn't care less whether you're a college drop out or
the prime minister, you better respect me or I'll turn my back on you
and take my would-be respect for you elsewhere my friend...be tough,
but not rude...

First impressions count. Practise good posture. Imagine that you're
being pulled by a string going all the way from your toes to the top
of your head. And whenever you enter a room, don't walk in as if
you're not welcome. No-one else does, and you're no different. Stride
in, make eye contact and be the first to introduce yourself. Don't
ever look down as if you've done something wrong, those people in that
room are most likely dying for someone with a bit of spark to liven up
the atmosphere. Let that be your job...let them have what they need of
you!

6. Be comfortably dressed

I've made the mistake of trying to disguise my body flaws by wearing
unflattering clothes. The truth is that wearing ill-fitting clothes
only serves to accentuate the same parts of your body that you're
trying to hide! Those baggy T-shirts and jeans don't do any justice
for anyone, male or female.

7. Keep learning new skills

Aside from keeping your mind sharp , be a life student. If traditional
education is something you are interested in, then do it. But don't
just do it to get a pay rise...do it because you want to...and because
you want to improve yourself.

If college isn't your thing, just do what I do and read books.
Fiction, non-fiction, whatever you decide. The point is that reading
has been extensively proven to increase our levels of intelligence,
grammar and punctuality.

With these improved qualities under your belt, you will have no
problems conversing with people in more and more social situations.

Nothing is stopping you from learning a new language, taking a new
hobby class, learning some new technical skills, etc. Write a date in
you diary for the start of you new learning term. Stick to it and do
it! I promise 1005 on my life that it WILL make you feel so much
better about yourself (and will give you something to talk about in
those previously awkward social situations).

8. Stand up and fight, dammit...

Don't be a doormat, it destroys the soul! If you don't speak up, you
will allow others not only to make assumptions, but also to push you
towards situations where you feel even less comfortable. Once you
start speaking up for yourself, you will have more control over where
you want to be, when you want to be there and with whom.

Start small (complaining when food tastes bad or someone ignores you)
and work your way up to an opinionated force to be reckoned with
(commanding people to listen to your valid points, asking for a pay
rise etc).

Again, this is a natural emotional ability you have. For example if
you were in court, being falsely accused of murder, potentially facing
life imprisonment...would you just look down at the floor and worry
about shouting "No you are wrong!"?

9. Take small steps to big success

Take each day at a time, otherwise you will become discouraged. The
pint is not to think small and conquer small, but to think of an
overall huge goal and then work backwards to where you are now. Break
each step down into actionable pieces. Before you know it, you will be
on top and may even feel a little dizzy from the height!

10. Ignore the negative

But when it arrives, use it to make yourself indestructible by
learning from your mistakes, which others let beat them down. Some of
the riches people in the world (apart from lottery winners) were only
able to achieve such success from making hundreds of mistakes. Put
your ego to one side, let your mistakes feed you with powerful
messages to improve your life.

If you and I were racing through a jungle full of Lions and wild
hunters, and I told you that you were going to be eaten and I would
survive, what do you think I would tell you to allow you to live?

Well, the truth is you wouldn't have a clue. That is, unless you made
that trip everyday. And there it is, I now tell you that I make this
trip everyday, amongst the Lions and the other hunters, across the
lake and the swamps, through the bushes and around the traps.

How did I not get eaten? I learned from many generations of people who
got savaged, lost friends and family and barely survived to tell the
tale...

So because I have made this journey everyday, learning from others and
from my own experience, I can tell you which way to go. Now you will
be safe...

There are many theories for a blushing free life. I can only hope you
are not led to the ones that cost you more time, pain and discomfort
than the original problem of blushing itself.

Instead, I would encourage you to visit http://www.facialredness.co.uk
and see how you can block out and stop facial blushing for good with
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